I know that it takes effort to really understand someone. It requires a kind of listening where you do not judge and you try your best to see things as they are. Most of the time we are always assigning a plus or a minus to what we perceive. It also requires feeling - feeling what the other person might feel , being in their skin, walking in their shoes. I have heard these phrases before. I am beginning to understand it more. Then there is the inevitable other half of reaching out to someone - that of being understood. It is very lonely if you are not understood.
[This message edited by grains at 11:45 PM, December 16th (Monday)]