Confused, I have depression, and have NEVER done anything that could be interpreted as infidelity at any level. He didn't post on CL because of depression. He's using that as an excuse.
MAYBE his self esteem was so battered that he wanted some titillation, and to see that he could still have the opportunity to screw around. I guess we all have to decide where that line of infidelity lies in our marriage, but in my mind, that's cheating.
And really, if his boundaries were able to stretch enough to allow that, he was probably already on the slippery slope that would lead to screwing around. You should NOT feel badly about assuming this to be the case!
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?
Finally divorced Jul/17
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!