My D-day was only 7 wks ago, but I already feel I've started to very slowly move toward my own personal healing.
After a mighty struggle, my WH moved out one week ago with the terms of our separation in his hand which I established. I finally can breathe again in my own house! I still have my emotional roller coaster moments but...at least fleeting moments of inner peace are visible. Even my kids who are little said "mom, you're much better since dad left".
Second big accomplishment of the week is MC. I know many people here say you should hold off on MC until IC is well under way. IC is progressing for both of us but we felt MC provided a safe zone to communicate even if R is the furthest thing from MY mind. In MC, I am realizing just how mentally ill my WH is; there are so many loose screws in his psyche that it actually allows me to detach myself emotionally from the nightmare I am living and say "geez, this guy is SO not well".
If only for brief moments, I feel ok, then that's progress, right?