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This has been bugging me for a long time... My sister is a cheater. Serial one I think? Married 3 times cheated on husband number 1 with husband number 2 then cheated on husband number 2 with husband number 3! Never cheated on husband number 3.... he just left her after 6 months of marriage. I called her to tell her what had been going on in my life of hell.... her response was.... JUST LOVE HIM! OMG! please woman I have had the same marriage for 21yrs do you not think I was doing that? NO compassion whatsoever, just her total selfish fricking attitude. Well if you didn't do this or that, maybe he wouldn't of done this or that????? I have learnt from a long time friend that there comes a time when toxic people have to be removed from your life...she calls it housekeeping lol I guess this is the time to be doing some cleaning in my life. Id like to sweep her right out the door not under the rug! I saw all of her responses when she was caught each time and I have to say she really thought that she deserved the affair. She put the blame on all her BS's.... nothing was ever her fault... Now she is living alone and working two jobs to make ends meet, complains its all their fault, HUH KARMAS a BITCH I GUESS!

My sister is also a cheater.

I don't have a sister, but I do have a really great friend and co-worker. Or at least I used to consider her a really great friend. I have not told anyone in real life about my WH's cyber affair. But after it happened my coworker confided in me that she's the other woman. She thinks it's funny actually and has no compassion for the other woman whose husband she is sleeping with. She blames her as well for not pleasing her husband.

It drives me insane that someone I considered a friend could be so callous and could do something like that to someone else. Yesterday she found out that this guy is not only cheating on his wife with her, but is now also cheating on her with someone else. Now she's all upset about it and bad mouthing the latest other woman for having the nerve to be with someone who is spoken for. My exact thought as she told me this was karma's a bitch!

My sister was cheated on and pointed me to this forum.

I thank her so much for this.
Thanks, Sis.

Sisters are a gift - sometimes a crazy one, I grant you!

Is there any way to "hate the sin, not the sinner"?

Her cheating isn't the sum total of what she is. Maybe her advice to you stems from her envy (not the bad kind) of your long marriage.

I hate for any sister to "write off" another sister. Could you agree to have this discussion not be a part of your relationship? But leave the door open for other things?