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Topic: how screwed up is this

Cabot
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Posted: 10:20 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013

I have found out that the OM that my wife has been with she was with when we started dating (he was married then also)
So that makes me the OM to her relationship with him then and him the OM to mine my head hurts

Posts: 68 | Registered: Nov 2013

IrishLass518
♀ 34373
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Posted: 10:25 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013

Ouch, so sorry Cabot. I have no words for this kind of messed up.

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1858 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA

sodamnlost
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Posted: 10:33 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013

So he was cheating on his wife and his AP - your WW and his OW - was cheating on him?

That's a crazy picture to wrap your head around for sure.

Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016

Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an

Posts: 772 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Out of the ashes

Cabot
♂ 41485
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Posted: 10:44 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013

Oh it gets better over past 4 months WW had 2 AP he was one and she had anouther one so. I used to be OM to him and his A to OW who is now my WW and I am BH and he is OM to my M and my WW is his M OW once again now I also have anouther OM to my M who would also be an OM to his renewed A with my WW. (I think I need a drink)

Posts: 68 | Registered: Nov 2013

IrishLass518
♀ 34373
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Posted: 11:17 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013

I think you deserve that drink. That is a whole bunch of OP's to keep track of. I am not sure how you can wrap your head around it all. Are you going to IC? You have a lot of betrayal going on here and a therapist can help you process it all. Try to take care Cabot.

Posts: 1858 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA

Cabot
♂ 41485
Member # 41485

Posted: 11:32 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013

I am in IC only had one sessison so far. It is a lot to handle

Posts: 68 | Registered: Nov 2013

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