first post here I think on D/S.
bastard WS. I did something stupid last night. Had a couple of drinks. tagged OW's face with whore word. am not proud. ashamed actually. and it was counterproductive. OW says she told OBS. I don't know. I feel terrible about it all!
And what did WS do? He changed all his passwords in retaliation. So much for transparency. So much for just the slightest understanding of feelings boiling over (NOT excusing what I did, but it's at least understandable). And its because he doesn't show empathy that my feelings sometimes boil over and have nowhere to go, except to excruciating pain, or in this case, to FB. Dumb.
Anyway, all this on General forum, and I've been terribly needy all day...
The POINT of this post:
I don't know an attorney or even anyone who has been divorced, who is a good friend, to ask for a referral. My only experience with an attorney was a really bad one, she did nothing and already i had a bill for $10K. We settled in Mediation.
I am feeling REALLY vulnerable and afraid to hire an attorney. I'm thinking of seeing if Domestic Violence folks can recommend an attorney who might have an actual interest in women's issues. I'm not involved in DV, unless you count what is actually a sort of emotional abuse, which i have admittedly grown to accept (but which I'm now working to get out of).
We own a house together. He's paid maybe 20%. I want to try to protect what's mine.
Or maybe I should just let him keep 50% and dump it, happy to be free of his toxicity forever.
Advice warmly appreciated!
Sorry for everyone's struggles. I realize my situation pales in comparison.
[This message edited by TheAgonyOfIt at 11:56 PM, December 15th (Sunday)]