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Divorce/Separation :
Free at last, whooohoo. Hello 2014

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 HurtsButImOK (original poster member #38865) posted at 9:10 AM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

First, hugs to all still going through S/D. Its a f'n painful process.

I am now free, got the sealed orders in the post today! Just over one year from DD, 1year + 6 days from originally agreeing the financial settlement which he, of course, reneged on.

Lots of acquired brain damage later because I thought we could do it amicably its finally over. That messed up selfish SOB is finally out of my life. FOR GOOD! 7 days remaining to finalize the transactions, then its all over red rover.

2013 you almost had me. Such joy in learning and living this new life, such equally contrasting moments of pain and despair. Did you really only last 1year? You went by so fast yet seemed to last so long. Unfortunately my sweet 2013 you cant compete with the first douche free year since 1996. Welcome 2014, I am looking forward to all you have to bring.

A big thanks to all on SI for the strength, hugs and advice so freely given by so many with such enormous hearts.

There is still healing to do, but its okay, I can feel the sunshine now.

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

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Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 10:36 AM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

Great news. Enjoy your new life of freedom!

Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.

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lisaloo ( member #20082) posted at 2:15 PM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

What a MERRY CHRISTMAS and a HAPPY New Year you just got!!

Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house separation...fun, fun, fun.

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Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:25 PM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

Merry Christmas and Congratulations!!!

Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver

Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:42 PM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

There is still healing to do, but its okay, I can feel the sunshine now.

Love this. Congratulations, Hurts! Onward.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Spelljean ( member #35624) posted at 3:23 PM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

Congrats! Here's to a brand new life!

WH: 41
me: BS, 45
Together 18 1/2 years, married 17
DDAY 8/2/12
OW: EA- friend of 4 months
Status: separated

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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 3:27 PM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

Congratulations!

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WeepingBuddhist ( member #39139) posted at 3:30 PM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

Good for you! Happy New Year!

Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

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Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 4:05 PM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

This is me hitting the Like Button (((((hit))))

I wish the best for your New Year!

Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 6:47 PM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

There is still healing to do, but its okay, I can feel the sunshine now.

LOVE this. Love it.

I'm right there behind you, friend. Just waiting on the papers.

WOOWHOO!!

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 7:06 PM on Monday, December 16th, 2013

Yeah, love it!

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 2:12 AM on Tuesday, December 17th, 2013

Yeee-haah! Congrats! Enjoy your freedom, and make sure that you celebrate the new year and your NB!

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 2:22 AM on Tuesday, December 17th, 2013

It is good to go into a new year with this news!!

Congrats.

Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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 HurtsButImOK (original poster member #38865) posted at 8:50 AM on Tuesday, December 17th, 2013

thank you for the congrats. I cant stop smiling.

I feel like a huge weight has been lifted, like the last year was spent in financial limbo and I was powerless to make any major changes and decisions incase it ended up in court.

Thank you all again for being here, you all rock!

Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

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Dawn58 ( member #37656) posted at 2:07 PM on Tuesday, December 17th, 2013

Congrats to you!! I know 2014 will bring wonderful things to you!

I am still waiting for mediation. My STBX astounds me with the lies he still spews.....I have to remember that he is a liar, plain and simple. I will be so glad to be out of this limbo state I have been in for over a year now.

Here's to new beginnings!!!!

I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 10:47 PM on Tuesday, December 17th, 2013

Congratulations!

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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brightsidegirl ( new member #41664) posted at 4:19 AM on Wednesday, December 18th, 2013

Yea! I'm jealous that you get to start the new year a free woman! Enjoy the hell out of that freedom!!!

I tried to be everything you'd ever want and sometimes I even stood on my heart and stomped. Now I'm finally alone and dressed for the show but going nowhere.
--Sara Bareilles

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dmari ( member #37215) posted at 7:22 AM on Wednesday, December 18th, 2013

Another one of our D/S friends are FREE!! Yahoo!! I'm throwing confetti!! I'm so jealous you can start 2013 fresh fresh fresh!!

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Laura28 ( member #28997) posted at 10:32 AM on Wednesday, December 18th, 2013

Hi honey.

Congrats.

I truly hope 2014 brings a wonderful new life for you.

HUGS

Laura

Married 42yrs Me BW 68Yrs Him F?WH 70yrs OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted. Dday May 28 2010. OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years). OW2 2002(8yrs PA). OW3 2009(1Yr PA). Others?? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck 'em"

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