STBXH has argued and argued and put his foot down that NO, DD does NOT need a phone, she's too young, there's no need for her to have one, if she needs to make calls he'll set her up with a way to do it on the computer...blah, blah, blah...this stupid phone issue was even brought up by WH when we were meeting with our church as something that HE felt was me disrespecting his wishes or some such nonsense (despite the fact that I had HONORED his wishes and DD does NOT have a phone).
At any rate it's been a point of contention for some time now, and since I filed for D I was just going to add her on to my plan and get her a phone for Christmas...
I got a text message from that SOB today saying "I got DD an iPhone."
I was like, AYKM?! You stupid SOB...I know exactly why he got it too...He couldnt think of anything to get her for Christmas, so he had to default to an idea of mine that he is vehemently against. I'm thinking to myself, I was going to get her a cheap-o phone and add her on to my plan for an extra 10 bucks a month, and that was a problem, but a $500 phone is cool all of a sudden?!
He then informs me that he is not going to put her on his plan, but that she will still be able to iMessage without a plan.
Seriously? He's giving her a ridiculously expensive phone that she cant even use to call people? What the hell is she going to do with a phone that wont CALL people?
What a stupid jackass.
She will get tired of that $500 phone because it will be pretty much useless.
Can you suggest a compromise? A simple, "That's a really nice idea, but I'd like for her to have a phone that she can use for calls. Can we compromise? You give her the phone, but I'll grab one that I can add to our plan. That way, she'll have a present from you she really loves, and comes from you."
(Or, do what I'd do: get her a phone that is compatible with your plan, give it to her --- maybe for an early present, or just because it will make it easier for you to have her have a phone, and ...well, let him give her the Useless Phone, and explain to her why it doesn't do anything. Then, tell her it can be returned, and she can use the $$ to get something she's really been aching to have.)
[This message edited by solus sto at 11:28 AM, December 16th (Monday)]
I'd go ahead and get your phone and let him give his iPhone (without the phone). Your DD will get an interesting lesson from that.
Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.
If you dont want to get her the data plan, you can always make that part wi-fi- only but the phone and cell numbers are separate from the data plan.
In my view, my kids RARELY use the cell part and imessage from wi-fi areas as much as possible.
I seriously just wish you all could have heard the ranting and raving this nutjob did about NOT letting DD have a phone prior to this...I am suppressing the urge to send him the dictionary definition of hypocrite
As it was, I did have to reply to his text...I couldn't stop myself...I gave him an "lol" and let him know that I was amused, given his vehement opposition up to this point
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Any chance he's upgrading his own phone and giving DD his old one without service? I ask because that's EXACTLY what wasband did. Wrapped up his used, deactivated phone and gifted it to DD.
Now that you mention it, I can TOTALLY see the jackass doing this!!!
I seriously just wish you all could have heard the ranting and raving this nutjob did about NOT letting DD have a phone
Well, she still doesn't have a phone. She has something she can imessage with IF she is near a public wifi or knows the password for the private wifi that she is near
Carry on with your plans and ignore, ignore, ignore.