Any way, his lawyer requested an expedited hearing since he is in dire financial straits (making $96,000) and avoiding mandatory mediation.
The judge denied this and is requiring mediation. I am consulting with lawyers this next week.
Is it wise for the lawyer to attend the mediation with me?
You were ordered to mediate, not to come to agreement.
I would go with L *consult*.
Talk to your L beforehand and say "this is what he's filed and why. This is what he wants. I think he sucks and needs to choke on pebbles and here's why. Judge says we need to mediate this, what approach should I take?"
Then attend the session on your own (cheaper for you).
After the 1st session, call your L and de-brief him/her.
Do NOT sign off on anydamnthing without running it by your L first. (Unless it is glaringly in your favor, of course......although considering your X, I highly doubt any of his concessions are going to be in *your* favor)
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Personally, I'm with sundra -- if he's represented, I would be too.
I also don't know how the post divorce required mediation works. I will find out.
The attorney I used for the divorce and contempt issue did a great job for me and got me an awesome settlement...I mean awesome. But his bedside manner is awful, I don't like him personally, and he is EXTREMELY expensive. You get what you pay for...LOL I am going to interview several other lawyers to get a feeling for what's out there. Would it be a bad idea to switch lawyers from the one that wrote the original separation agreement and got me such a great settlement??
All I know is NPDx is a sick bastard and will stop at nothing to ruin me. I suspect I will pay for a lawyer to be with me during mediation even though my journey has given me a great pair of shiny red bitch boots I can wear and have worn, but they still sometimes fall off!
[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 7:28 AM, December 17th (Tuesday)]