Please don't generalize. It's against site guidelines.
GENERAL STATEMENTS: Please refrain from making statements that generalize gender, WS/OP/BS, race, religion or political alignment. Also not presume to speak on behalf of other people.
I hope it's ok to say this, but I really didn't see what was wrong in what he said.
For me, the point of this thread is to process what's going on in my head. That the A was a lie and not real. That my xAP had had many A's prior to the one with me and was "seasoned". It's almost as if I need some input into realising that not all people enter into an A "genuinely" and what I mean by that is that some people enter an A in a very pre-meditated way. Because that wasn't my personal experience I sometimes am baffled.
For me, there was a future in my wayward relationship or at least I imagined there was. For my AP, it would seem that was never a possibility. I am trying to understand if that is a common occurrence especially for wayward men.
I think on this site, it's sometimes necessary to generalise and I think we do it often because people who betray or have betrayed tend to feel universal emotions of pain etc so we clump things together all the time which is another word for generalising.
I know, one man cannot speak on behalf of a whole gender but it's useful for me to hear how "men" think. It's helpful and snaps me out of my naivety.
The above is said with all due respect to AN/Mods.