My parents will save him money as they will take care of the kids the next 2 weeks and he won't have to pay day care, but when I asked him to pay the airfare difference so my parents can go back home considering the situation, he refuses and says it is not his problem. Nevertheless he is in my health insurance and needs it for eye surgery. That is not my problem either, right? I don't want to start a war and my kids well being is my concern. Any advice? Did I mention he has passive aggressive issues?
Your WS is probably cheating again and trying to blame shift. I would consider this a declaration of war. Start getting your financial papers in order and your important documents on a safe place. Take your half of any joint accounts out. Unfortunately you can't take him off your insurance until the D is final or at least the next open enrollment period. Brave yourself for the kids' questions and reactions. Look into an attorney.
You will get through this!
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
acts like he is a victim and honestly I think he has gone mad.
This is a perfect description of my ex two weeks after the divorce. He is completely irrational, nice one minute, nasty the other, blaming everyone else (especially me, it is apparently all my fault) and becoming quite paranoid.
I would not read too much into it! He is feeling the consequences, losing control, running out of choices. If he is like my ex then he is lashing out with no particular purpose. It is a tantrum. Life was good before, wifey at home and fun on the side, but all that's over now. Boo Hoo.
My advice is to pick your battles. Decide what matters most and work towards agreement on that. I let the rest of it go and ignore, ignore,ignore.