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soconfusednow posted 12/18/2013 13:50 PM

There is a restaurant I usually quickly run in & out of with take out. Today I was in there a little later than usual & had no place to go, so I sat down to eat.

The place started to fill up. I noticed I was the only woman in the place. Then the thought came....if I wanted to meet a guy this would be a good place to hang out.

I was so ashamed of myself. I felt the need to look only at my table or out the window to avoid any possible temptation. How did I get here?

bionicgal posted 12/18/2013 14:10 PM

I think you are being hyper-vigilant. I get random, crazy thoughts like that too. Sometimes our minds are like monkeys!!

I wouldn't be worried or ashamed unless you were really contemplating hooking up with someone there. Like, you know, grabbing them and hustling them into the bathroom. .

Lighten up a little soconfusednow! If it becomes a pattern of escapist thinking, then you have something to worry about.

[This message edited by bionicgal at 2:15 PM, December 18th (Wednesday)]

Jrazz posted 12/18/2013 14:21 PM

Don't be so hard on yourself. The ground was taken out from underneath you not that long ago. There is a huge difference between a fleeting thought and an action plan.

It's good to acknowledge when we have unhealthy thoughts, and to tell them to shush. You're not a bad person, you're just in a new headspace and need to learn how to deal with the emotions. You're going to be ok.


PinkJeepLady posted 12/18/2013 15:04 PM

You are ok!!! I have had the most random thoughts like that, I am embarrassed to even say them. Yours is pretty tame compared to mine, just saying.

Sadly though, I too wonder how in the world did I get here, of all places?

Take care!

sisoon posted 12/18/2013 16:54 PM

if I wanted to meet a guy this would be a good place to hang out... I was so ashamed of myself.

I'm sorry you felt ashamed. I think you just noticed the environment. You recognized a slippery slope without jumping onto it. That's reason to celebrate your observational skills and integrity.

RipsInMyChest posted 12/19/2013 05:40 AM

I have those thoughts too...nothing to be ashamed of. I used to look around me in every store and wonder which guys would leave the store with me if I came on to them! I would NEVER act on those thoughts. I think those kind of thoughts are actually a way to understand our WS and tap in to our we can understand their flaws and weaknesses better.

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