Does anyone have any experience with the "vulnerable" (as in not grandiose) narciccist? My IC has been trying to convince me for some time that my WH seems to fit this, although not on a larger scale.
Specifically, WH exhibits the following:
--can't seem to do "empathy" about his EA issues, but rather, goes into a deep shame mode
--is a "rescuer" type who needs to be needed
--low self esteem, deep fear of abandonment
--hyper defensive to small perceived criticism
--he's often "kiss up, kick down," in that he idealizes people based on their professions, eg referred to our neighbors as "the surgeon," "the colonel," "the professor" etc; and at the same time, often treats people with jobs like clerks, waitresses, demeaningly.
Does anyone else have experience with this sort of NPD? There is a lot of info out there on the grandiose kind, but not much on the vulnerable ones.