and DBT. It's a therapy for keeping the emotions balance. It was developed for people with borderline personality disorder. I found, for myself, that all the upheaval of infidelity causes the same build up of emotions and possible losses of control of those emotions.
There is a lot of value in reframing.
But if you want something to address depression and anxiety, zoloft is good.
There is an herbal supplement called Valerian Root that you can steep into tea. It tastes like shite, but it is very calming (It's chemically very similar to valium). It's fast acting but not very strong, so you don't have to wait for it build up to effective levels like some prescription medications. Talk with you IC (if you have one) before you talk to you MD---they are notoriously bad at prescribing based on emotional trauma.
If you are careful and only take it when you absolutely cannot get through the anxiety without help, you should be okay.
Final D-Day: August 2007.
Divorce finalized: 6-16-09
I hear it's like a supplement. My mom wants me to get it:) I am not a medication taker and HATE feeling drugged. I know three people that took it during their D and said it's great.
I was a social smoker but didn't really smoke much independently, well NOW I fucking do. UGH! So I meel ya. Working on Me is my new years resolution, that included my selfesteem, health, being a mom, quitting smoking, etc.
In regards to how to calm down, I blast music in my ears and close my eyes. It's so loud that I can't think about other things. I often feel small anxiety attacks, nothing that I'd flip out for. I just get sudden feelings of being overwhelmed, panicky, and emotional. I go outback, put in the headphones, blast music, and have a smoke. I calm down in minutes. If I'm driving, only the music will do, I will not smoke in a car, gross.