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User Topic: FB purge
littlefoggy
♀ 41429
Member # 41429
Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I have unfriended and detagged him. I detagged myself from every picture he had up.

Is it too much to remove every single picture of him ever from my facebook?

Stupid facebook. Ruining everyone's lives.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 499 | Registered: Nov 2013
lisaloo
♀ 20082
Member # 20082
Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STBXH and I are still married, and though I filed and he's counter filed, we're still FB "friends." I wish the jackass would just unfriend me already, but I'm not going to do it, because I'm playing nice for the courts...that being said, I removed every picture of him or with him in it (I'm talking like a hundred plus)...and untagged myself in any pic I had been tagged in with him...AND I made him restricted, so we're still "friends" but he can't see anything I post...so short answer, nope, it's not too much. Screw 'em.


Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house separation...fun, fun, fun.

Posts: 474 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: AL
gypsybird87
♀ 39193
Member # 39193
Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Facebook is so toxic. If it wasn't my main connection to good friends who don't live locally, I would quit it altogether.

Do whatever feels right. I unfriended, untagged, took down photos etc immediately. Also, if your X is still involved with OW, I recommend blocking asap. Otherwise you run the risk of seeing devastatingly hurtful things, like I did.

((littlefoggy))


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


Posts: 1047 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do it. I unfriended, removed all pictures, and blocked The Princess. FB assumed that there must be some harassment for me to block, so they posted a message to me saying, "Sorry you had to experience this."

I believe that is the only apology I will ever receive.

[This message edited by pass at 12:12 AM, December 20th (Friday)]


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
littlefoggy
♀ 41429
Member # 41429
Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I unfriended about a week after dday. He wouldn't NC her. In particular he wouldn't unfriend her on FB. I did it to show him how easy it is.

I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't even notice I did it.


Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing

Posts: 499 | Registered: Nov 2013
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OTOH, FB is how I found out (via alert cousins since I'd already unfriended him) he was traveling to see OW and spending money, which is how I knew I needed to comb through his bank statements, and is how I was able to prove he was giving up visitation time to be with her and spending money on her when our kids were needing new shoes. Good stuff for the lawyer right there!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10153 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
pregnantandsad
♀ 40141
Member # 40141
Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do it. I unfriended him and blocked him, blocked OW and unfriended all of his friends and family. I don't have anything against most of his friends and family, but I don't want my info getting to him and vice-versa. I don't want to see anything about him pop up when I am on FB. I also removed all pictures of him and I unfriended anyone I am not really close with. I don't need a bunch of old classmates and co-workers gossiping about my personal issues. Maybe I went a bit overboard, but it makes me feel better to not have to worry about any of that anymore.


M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filed for D, almost done!

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it too much to remove every single picture of him ever from my facebook?
No, honey - it's not too much. You do whatever feels right for you.

I untagged, blocked, and removed all the pictures that had him in them. Don't worry about what's right or wrong - do what's best for your well being.

((((littlefoggy))))


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26505 | Registered: Aug 2011
Artemisia
♀ 40564
Member # 40564
Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe that is the only apology I will ever receive.

Pass - too, too funny.

littlefoggy - yes. Facebook is a terrible place to be during terrible times. I deactivated my account altogether, and I recommend it to anyone who can go without. Forget that crap.


Posts: 117 | Registered: Sep 2013
PurpleBirch
♀ 39170
Member # 39170
Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH never wanted to be fb friends. He hates fb, and only made an account last year to participate in a gaming forum fb group. When he mentioned (not the first time) about some of my fb stuff that he didn't like (the cheater being paranoid), I told him, just be my friend and you'll see all my stuff! He declined, which made me wonder if I should be suspicious about HIS fb... Anyway.

I didn't remove all the pictures of us together, but I did make it so that only I can see them.


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
Thefly559
♂ 40268
Member # 40268
Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Facebook is toxic and horrible. If I liked most of those people in high school then I would have remained friends. If not I do not really care. Just my opinion. It allows you to escape reality into fantasy. Maybe even rekindle with and old flame after having a fight with your spouse????? F--k Facebook. I won't ever go on again. I have a business one but nothing else.


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 737 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
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