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User Topic: My mom is dying
confused615
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Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She told me the day after Thanksgiving.

Stage 4 lung cancer. Small cell carcinoma.

Im not sure what Im looking for. Prayers? Hugs? Support? Advice? Medical opinions? A miracle? Please?


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7898 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((((confused)))))))))

Posts: 11791 | Registered: Mar 2008
lieshurt
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Member # 14003
Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((confused)))

I am so sorry hun. You are in my prayers.


A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won't go anywhere.

Posts: 13833 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry, C6.
{{{{{hugs}}}}}


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8181 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((confused & mom))))))) Oh, honey.

Sending you and your mom everything I've got.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26166 | Registered: Aug 2011
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((confused615)))))

That's the same form my mom had.

Best advice I can give you is become her health advocate, weighing each procedure and proposed treatment very carefully.

She'll need someone in her corner.


AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21099 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so deeply sorry.

Sending hugs and prayers. We've been through something very similar (swap lung for gastric). Please PM me anytime.

(((confused615)))


"Sometimes people are mean, and sometimes things will be hard. One of your jobs is to try and make sure that that never makes you mean and hard, too." Cord Jefferson's Mom

Posts: 18298 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((confused)))) I am so sorry. Hugs and SI mojo to you both.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9952 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((confused & mom)))

I'm so sorry. Saying prayers.


Posts: 36451 | Registered: Mar 2011
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry.

Hugs and prayers, Sweet friend.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2879 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((confused and mom)))

Sending along my prayers to you and your mother.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52992 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
hemademesingle
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry, it took my dad too

What I can tell you, my dad was 72 when diagnosed, July 13 was day of diagnosis Aug 26 he passed, it was fast for him, he received radiation treatments to alleviate pain, and pain medication nothing for life prolonging procedures as nothing would have helped

I agree with AJ's mom, be her advocate, let her wishes be heard, my biggest concern with my dad became him not being in any pain, I couldn't bare to see him suffer

I spent as much time as I could with my dad, I was lucky that I could, I had known others with this form of cancer and they didn't last long, time with my dad became precious

You and your family are in my prayers,


Posts: 393 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Canada
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs)))

Bless you.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5906 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HUGS))) I'm sorry. I lost my sister to the same cancer. I hate cancer.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10014 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Jules1111
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers for you and your mom. ((((Hugs)))))

Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. It must be frightening for you.

(((Hugs and strength.)))


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3858 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
wifehad5
♂ 15162
Member # 15162
Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((confused)))


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37610 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((((((((((((Confused and Mom))))))))))))))))))))))
Just be there to listen. Write down stories, video or photograph as appropriate. Wish I had more video of my Mom.

Praying for a miracle for the two of you


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6665 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((confused))))

I'm so sorry to hear this news.

Make the most of whatever time you have left together with her. This is such a difficult thing to go through, but it is a gift that you know now and can plan for the end (should this be the end).

Thinking of you and sending you and your mom strength.

((((confused))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, December 19th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry, confused.

Just spend all the time with her that you can.

(((confused)))


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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