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erzulie posted 12/19/2013 17:45 PM

... haven't had a lot of time to check in, but wanted to share a quick update in the hopes that maybe it helps to inspire others - especially during this emotionally-laden time of year.

Just a recap - D-Day, and the day I asked him to find somewhere else to live, was September 5. I only agreed to see him/talk to him in front of a counselor - which we did, weekly, for over two months. November 29 was the last time I saw my WH; that was when I confronted him in front of the MFT about his continued deception, and he "came clean" with his past dalliances. I have not seen or talked to him since.

Since that time, I have done the following:

- Got an A in my Marketing class - the last class of this Semester (I have 3 classes left in the Spring before I graduate with my MBA)

- Started a training program for a half-marathon

- Cleaned my house top to bottom, including getting rid of a lot of old stuff that needed to be organized and donated

- Got my younger dog to his ideal weight and level of fitness (he had put on a few pounds the past few years)

- Nursed my older dog through a very involved dental surgery, which she is recovering from and doing very, very well

- Cashed in some points from my rewards credit card and got myself some new boots that I love

- Have been eating healthy and working out regularly, including my favorite, yoga

- Have spent a lot of time with my amazing family whom I adore

- Am planning a dinner party on Saturday night at my house, hostessing my group of close girlfriends to honor an annual holiday tradition of cheer and cocktails

- Am hostessing Christmas Eve dinner at my house for my mom's side of the family and my brother's girlfriend's family, who will be meeting for the first time

- Got hit on by a ridiculously sweet and handsome fireman (although I didn't really know how to respond - I don't know what the rules are quite yet - that said, my heart hasn't skipped a beat like that since I-don't-remember-when)

NC has been the best gift I have ever given myself. In a way, I feel like I've taken my broken heart right back from the person I had given it to - a person who never would have treated it with care. I feel good about my life, where I am at, and what the future will bring.

I hope that everyone here who is struggling with themselves, their self-worth, their lot in life, can find some comfort in these ideas and put them into practice for themselves.

Sending you all love this holiday, and always. I never would have been able to navigate the complicated waters of this situation without all of you. So, I owe you all tremendous thanks!!!!

ChoosingHope posted 12/19/2013 17:55 PM


NC is the best gift I've ever given myself too!

Happy Holidays Erzulie!

caregiver9000 posted 12/19/2013 19:12 PM

That is a great update!

Happy holidays to you, erzulie!

tesla posted 12/19/2013 21:06 PM

Awesome post and very happy for you!

nowiknow23 posted 12/19/2013 21:23 PM

Chrysalis123 posted 12/19/2013 22:22 PM

Thanks for the great update. You have made so much progress!

Pass posted 12/20/2013 00:05 AM

Sounds like life is getting better!

Nature_Girl posted 12/20/2013 00:51 AM

Wow! This is so inspiring!

tushnurse posted 12/20/2013 08:51 AM

So Happy to hear that you are doing well. You crossed my mind the other day when I was talking with a friend about her elderly dog.

I hope you continue to find happiness, and don't worry about men, once you find your own happiness, and your confidence comes back, they will be banging down your door to date you.

((((and strength, and Merry Christmas))))

GingerAle posted 12/20/2013 10:26 AM

Awesome post, erzulie! I am so happy for you, and you should be so proud of yourself!!

wanted to share a quick update in the hopes that maybe it helps to inspire others

I am completely inspired, thank you so much

sleepless34 posted 12/20/2013 16:01 PM

Awesome! You inspired me to post a similar update. Glad to hear you are doing better too.

The #1 best thing learned on this site is "the CRICKETS" that saved my ass from rounds and rounds of crazy making bullshit conversations that would have made smoke blow out my ears and my hair fall out.

I also love is just so good. Fuck. That. Guy. That is my anthem right now...

gypsybird87 posted 12/20/2013 17:39 PM

You rock, erzulie!!

Thanks for posting this. You are most definitely an inspiration!

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