A couple of weeks after I filed D, the Ex came to his senses (it seemed) and told me about OW. He said she had broken up 4 marriages previously, she loved breaking people up, was insanely obsessed with me and using him. He went on to say she was toxic, destructive, manipulative, etc.
They broke up late June, after his big revelation. Then sometime late July/early August, they got back together. This is when the attacks against me escalated to dangerous levels. I still can't wrap my head around some of it. Thankfully the judge slapped a restraining order on him.
So at mediation this week, the Ex gives me the same speech about how she's destructive, obsessive, dangerous, violent, etc. He said couldn't believe he let such a person into his life and she's still stalking him.
What I don't understand, why did he get back together with her after knowing those things about her. By his own admission, he thought she was trouble. He knew she thrives on ruining marriages, so why let her back in. I really don't get it.
I've come so far since I went total NC with him. I stopped trying to figure it out and have been rebuilding my life.
Even now, I'm not upset about it so much as I'm stumped.