He went very quiet, I think it really sunk in as he was pretty restless before going to sleep. I felt a bit guilty coming back with an unpleasant comment like that after a genuine offer of help.
But I couldn't help remembering an e-mail Christmas eve a few years ago when he told fOW that 'Christmas was all sorted' and why don't they meet up. Fact that I was up to my elbows in cooking, wrapping and dealing with overexcited children seemed to pass him by. He went out supposedly to do some last-minute Christmas shopping. And I wonder how many other last-minute shopping trips weren't what they seemed, but honestly can't be bothered to go there with him now. B*******! Grrrrr!
On one hand they see what they should have been doing and didn't, so now they offer to. On the other, you can't help feeling it's too little too late.
I've learned to appreciate that H now sees what he needs to do and most of the time just go with it.
Nothing is in a vacuum; everything for a BS goes through an A filter for a very long time. For example, a work Christmas party!
That Christmas Eve email must really burn. Glad your H has changed his ways.
Merry Christmas! It's a new day.
