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teeghan posted 12/20/2013 16:21 PM

So he gets arrested for aggrevated stalking and THEY LET HIM OUT TODAY ON EMERGENCY BOND HEARING THAT GOT CALLED IN 2 freakin hours and gets visitation but only through courts but can still call nightly to talk to the kids.

He does have a gps bracelet he will have to wear...The bond revoke hearing hasn't gone through yet so eventually he will go back to jail but damn how can one person skate by and get such LUCK on the crazy shit he has done to me and my kids..... OH MY GOD I FEEL LIKE I CAN NOT WIN AND I FEEL LIKE JUST GIVING UP THE FIGHT AND SAYING FUCK IT......He seems to win at everything anyways.......

Sorry I am pissed off at the world today..... I just do not understand. I just do not get it at all.

Skan posted 12/20/2013 17:07 PM

(((hugs))) I hope that you are still at the shelter and hopefully, he doesn't know where it's at. Do make sure that the place that you're at has a copy of your RO and make darned sure that the school(s) that your children go to have copies as well. What a fricking mess!.

doggiediva posted 12/20/2013 17:39 PM

I have some questions coz I'm confused..

How did you come to know that the county jail let him out ? Is there a policy in place that the county lets you know when he is released? (I hope so)

Or did your WH himself call to harass you again?

If you have some proof that HE called you to harass you, isn't that grounds to inform his bondsman?..

And wouldn't this cause the bonds people to find a way to get in touch with WH face to face, hand cuff him and have him taken back to jail?

I echo what Skan said too..

This is all so very scary and you are so strong...I admire you..

caregiver9000 posted 12/20/2013 17:50 PM

PLEASE don't give up! You have to find the strength to fight for you and for the kids. I KNOW the courts make it too easy for the perps. I know what it feels like... and I am so so sorry.

You have to project that there are consequences and that you will enforce your boundaries. Make it too much trouble to play games.

Hang in there tee. He will hopefully find other interests.

(((hugs))) we are all pulling for you.

Dare2Trust posted 12/20/2013 17:53 PM

teeghan,

Stay positive....
This is good:

and gets visitation but only through courts but can still call nightly to talk to the kids.
He does have a gps bracelet he will have to wear...The bond revoke hearing hasn't gone through yet so eventually he will go back to jail

---HIS visitations will be monitored by the Court!
---HE can talk to the kids...but he can't hurt you or the kids OVER THE PHONE!

---Once HE goes in for the "Bond Revoke Hearing"....his butt will be back in jail!!!

Try to be patient...and keep yourself and the kids safe!

painfulpast posted 12/20/2013 17:54 PM

Why did they let him out when he's only going to go back later? That's just wrong. Why should you live in fear while this asshole walks free?

teeghan posted 12/20/2013 19:08 PM

Thanks all. I am calmer now. I am still fighting but damn....I am stressed.

To answer ones questions:

We are still at shelter and yes every plave has copy of RO. We have a victim advocate who calls me on every tiny thing even in middle of the night. He has NOT bonded out yet and when he does they will call me immediately day or night.

The reason his other bond hasnt been revoked yet is because that case was misdemeanor and this is felony so.hnadled by too different courts. So now the prosecution in revoke of bond will ask for an emergency hearing in two weeks when court starts back on 30th.

I need to move to a remote island.

teeghan posted 12/20/2013 19:12 PM

I just feel like he is always going ro get away with it all sometimes. I fel like a crazy person more than a victim with him. Ugh.

Bit I am working, st shelter, kids are safe and I am stil doing what I habe to for those babies.

jjsr posted 12/20/2013 20:11 PM

Stay safe at the shelter and keep fighting for you and your kids. Its hard but you can do it and SI is here for you

jjct posted 12/20/2013 20:22 PM

He is NOT going to get away tdear.
You have 40 thousand people at your back.
That is 2 Rupp arenas full of people...keep protecting yourself. We are here for you any time.
huge hugs

caregiver9000 posted 12/20/2013 20:33 PM

I just feel like he is always going ro get away with it all sometimes. I fel like a crazy person

I want to validate this for you. I understand this feeling!!!!

He is not always going to get away with it. You are going to be vigilant. You are smart and you are a gutsy woman. He may not ever get what he DESERVES, but that is not the same as YOU getting what you deserve!

You must last longer than he does. You are not crazy, but the system and the frustration can make you feel crazy.

Don't give up. We will fight right along side with you!

(((tee)))

nowiknow23 posted 12/20/2013 20:49 PM

((((teeghan)))) Continuing to send you strength, honey.

teeghan posted 12/21/2013 14:43 PM

Thank you guys :-* he has NOT bonded out and I was told today they are trying to place a Hold on his bond due to the revoke hearing to keep him in jail. I hope so.

I am praying and just enjoying kids and holidays. :) THANKS FOR LETTING ME VENT

Jen posted 12/21/2013 15:15 PM

(((tee)))

tushnurse posted 12/21/2013 16:58 PM

Stay strong Teeghan. You feel defeated because your brain is still thinking like an abused spouse. But KNOW this...repeat it often if you need to. You are strong, you are brave, you are fierce, like a momma bear you will do anything you need to yo keep your babies safe. You wil come out a winner.

(((( and strength )))))

Gr8Lady posted 12/21/2013 23:16 PM

You have the right to be mad as hell, use that anger to strengthen your rights to be safe.

You can do this...stay strong. All he can do on the phone is talk. We all know talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words.

EasyDoesIt posted 12/21/2013 23:25 PM

Because they're setting him up for the prisons-for-profit system which he will undoubtedly find himself in should he continue on this present path.

Your justice won't come swiftly, but it will come.

caregiver9000 posted 12/22/2013 22:14 PM

How are you doing teeghan?? Just checking on you.

teeghan posted 12/23/2013 10:59 AM

I am hanging in there. He has not bonded out so I am a bit at ease right now. :) Just talked to prosecution in FIRST case and they are trying to get the revoke hearing for Monday the 30th. So hopefully he wont get out before the hearing.

I am just taking things day by day. That is all I can do I guess. I will be glad when ONE day I can feel happiness daily instead of stress and sadness you know?

But at the same time I count my blessings that my kids are safe, I am safe, we have a roof over our heads, I have a great job now, and we will be moving into transitional housing here soon and can really save money to get on our feet within the next year :) Happy Holidays everyone

caregiver9000 posted 12/23/2013 11:21 AM

Happy holidays right back at you!!

You will feel something besides stress daily because you are engineering positive changes in your life! I am so proud of you, and I know that might sound weird, but it is true. I know how difficult it can be to get up and do what must be done. You keep doing it, and the payoff will come!!