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User Topic: Ego stroking
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Member # 41313
Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, December 22nd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He misses how she made feel awesome.

She was a master at ego stroking...always boosting him up and telling him his problems were no big deal and easily fixed with her help.

I don't know what to do with that. I feel like crap, have never felt worse. He misses that about her. That kills me.

Posts: 204 | Registered: Nov 2013
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, gee wiz, if all I had to do was text/email, and see an AP for a few hours a week, then I could be their biggest supporter too! Hell, I think under those circumstances I could probably handle about 6-8 APs and REALLY rake in the cash.

You don't tip a waitress that is surly, or a hairdresser that tells you all about their dirty laundry. And you don't have goo-goo eyes and unicorn farts with an AP that scratches their butt cheeks and tells you to go get your own damned drink. One doesn't live in Disneyland full time. In the real world, the floors get dirty and you have to deal with the stains on your shorts yourself.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 10065 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ahhhh poor baby!

Who was your ego stroke? Who made you feel good while he was out getting validated by someone else? Who made you feel awesome when he wasn't around to do so?

Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA

Posts: 1243 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WS needed his ego stroked by ow. From what I've read this means that WS was very insecure. I'm not the kind of person that can insincerely stroke his ego. I really hate knowing this fact too.

Married 9 years
ME BS 32
DD 3 years old
DDAY 11-13-12

Posts: 151 | Registered: Nov 2013
♀ 41411
Member # 41411
Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Conan can stroke his ego...

Me: 31, xBSO, Now happily married

Replies the scorpion: "Its my nature..."

Posts: 257 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: West Coast, USA
♀ 41313
Member # 41313
Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Conan made me smile for real.

Posts: 204 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 3:59 AM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm assuming you read that in an email? I think anything personal said, about her is going to put a dagger through your heart. It's harder, IMO , to deal with the conversations, the familiarity between them, then the physical act. I'm speaking for myself and of course others may disagree. To read or hear something like that...ughhh its excruciating. I'm sorry your hurting.
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

Posts: 5738 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
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