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He misses how she made feel awesome.

She was a master at ego stroking...always boosting him up and telling him his problems were no big deal and easily fixed with her help.

I don't know what to do with that. I feel like crap, have never felt worse. He misses that about her. That kills me.

Well, gee wiz, if all I had to do was text/email, and see an AP for a few hours a week, then I could be their biggest supporter too! Hell, I think under those circumstances I could probably handle about 6-8 APs and REALLY rake in the cash.

You don't tip a waitress that is surly, or a hairdresser that tells you all about their dirty laundry. And you don't have goo-goo eyes and unicorn farts with an AP that scratches their butt cheeks and tells you to go get your own damned drink. One doesn't live in Disneyland full time. In the real world, the floors get dirty and you have to deal with the stains on your shorts yourself.

Ahhhh poor baby!

Who was your ego stroke? Who made you feel good while he was out getting validated by someone else? Who made you feel awesome when he wasn't around to do so?

My WS needed his ego stroked by ow. From what I've read this means that WS was very insecure. I'm not the kind of person that can insincerely stroke his ego. I really hate knowing this fact too.

Conan can stroke his ego...

Ha!
Conan made me smile for real.

I'm assuming you read that in an email? I think anything personal said, about her is going to put a dagger through your heart. It's harder, IMO , to deal with the conversations, the familiarity between them, then the physical act. I'm speaking for myself and of course others may disagree. To read or hear something like that...ughhh its excruciating. I'm sorry your hurting.