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More reasons to concentrate on the 'reinvention of me'

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 StormyPrincess (original poster member #41224) posted at 1:33 PM on Monday, December 23rd, 2013

I'm posting on the weight loss support pages too...and said I'd explain this over here.

As a part of my 180 during this time of (what I think is) reconciliation, I've made the promise to 'reinvent' myself and get into the best shape/look of my life.

I started during the dark days after d-day but have coasted back to my old ways until this morning!!

I thought the xCOW was at least (AT LEAST) 10 years my senior....boy was I wrong!!! She is two years younger....you'd never know it!!!!!

Finding out this tidbit today has given me enough of a kick in the rear to really get moving and make myself look/feel the very best I ever have in my life! This will be good for me and great for my kids! (look out WH LOL).

So, don't put off taking care of yourselves! Give yourself the gift of good health, looks and attitude! It really helps!

Again, so glad I found you all (well, not really but you know what I mean!) You are all the best support group in the entire world....

StormyPrincess
Me: B exW 50 something
Him: XWH 40 something

Married: 20+ yrs; now divorced!!
2 DD; 1DS

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cl131716 ( member #40699) posted at 1:50 PM on Monday, December 23rd, 2013

Thank you! I needed this reminder! I want to get to this place. Taking care of me instead of thinking about WH.

Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:38 PM on Monday, December 23rd, 2013

Go you!

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Trying2Survive1 ( member #40022) posted at 5:59 PM on Monday, December 23rd, 2013

Good for you! I also decided to 'reinvent' myself for me! I felt so totally out of control of my feelings, emotions, thoughts, and my future. It gave me a positive focus, something to look forward to when life seemed hopeless and bleak.

I'm almost 6 mos from Dday and get compliments on my 'new' look often.

You go girl!!!

Madhatters, M 37yrs, many DDays
Both 60's, he now has stage 4 bladder cancer and in remission.
We're in solid R, there is hope!
Stop right there: I already don’t give a fuck ~ ty Greeneyesbluezy

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RealityStinks ( member #41457) posted at 6:00 PM on Monday, December 23rd, 2013

Totally agree. This past July, I decided to shed the excess pounds. This was pre-D-day, but I had that gut feeling we all know so well. Well, 50 pounds later, I'm in the best shape of my life. Don't get me wrong, I would rather smash my hand with a hammer than put on my shoes and run in the morning sometimes. But, I always feel better about me when I'm done.

Plus, it had the added benefit of pissing off my WW. She kept asking "why are you running?". My response since D-day has been "my well being and to get myself in a more marketable condition".

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Eudaimonia ( member #32445) posted at 9:31 PM on Monday, December 23rd, 2013

I know you're focusing on the weight loss aspect, but I've been really fixating on the reinvention of the overall "me" too-inside and out. I love what you wrote!

Someone with more knowledge of human psychology can probably give more insight, but someone told me at one point that the reason affirmations work so well is that it really does trigger a neurological response in the brain. Whether we believe something or not, if we say it enough times, our brain commands our bodies to follow suit. It does work!

So long, and thanks for all the fish!

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