I realized this morning that, although people do have the power to completely devastate our lives, we also really do have the power to impact other people's lives for the good.
My daughter bought a cup of coffee for a woman who works at her school; she told me that the woman always looks sad and a little 'rough'. She bought her a coffee and thanked her for all she did.. she said the woman just about broke into sobs. Such a little thing - but somebody saw her.
One of the hardest things about this whole A thing, is the feelings of invisibility. What has been helping me lately is to try to stop thinking about my own self and sorrow, and how invisible I feel/felt, and to start noticing the other Invisibles around me. It actually really helps.
I feel like I have been given a super-power. I have the power to SEE now, things I couldn't see before. I see broken hearted people. Trying to find ways to use my powers for good is turning out to be very great therapy for me. My H's affair does not define me. I am MORE than what he did.