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User Topic: Oh.my.god. What the fuckity fuck??!! Is he crazy or just cruel??
debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I must remind everyone that karma has kicked xpoopsmears ass. He was court ordered a few months ago to pay me thousands of dollars he owes me and the other woman/wife has now up and left him for another man.

Fast forward to today. DD15 is at her dads until tomorrow morning. I had to text text xpoopsmear today to let him know about a dental bill for DS17. He texted me back something benign and lets me know he will be bringing back DD15 tomorrow.

Then I get a picture text about an hour ago. The message says that he and DD15 have been making cookies and cupcakes and one of them is special for me and can I guess which one?

The picture is a pan with about a dozen cupcakes on it with various decorations and one is decorated with our anniversary month and date. (Like this: 5/15)What the fuck? What the actual fuck? What am I supposed to say to this?

What I have done is crickets. What I feel like to send is this "dear X💩smear, it's obvious that your wife has left you and now you are lonely and counting on me to be your soft place to land after nine years. Nine years. Nine freaking years?! Sorry dude... I do not live in unicorn skittle fart land. I have not remained single because I'm waiting on your sorry ass to come back. Go fuck yourself.

[This message edited by debbysbaby at 2:33 PM, December 23rd (Monday)]


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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PhoenixRisen
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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

W.
T.
F.

?
?


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and. wait...

What an idiot!!!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Genuinely bughouse nuts!

However, that was cruel to do to DD. It is almost every child of divorces dream that Mom and Dad can get back together. What an asshole.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

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Twitchy
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That reply sounds good. Send it.


BH(me)-49, FWW-43,
D-Day #1 - Oct 2007 - On-Line EA leading to a failed rendez-vous
D-Day #2 - Nov 2008 - In person EA caught early.

Away you will go, sailing in a race among the ruins.
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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tis the season (to suffer a blow to the head, apparently).


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"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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momentintime
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My answering text would be.....Which one is for me????


BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd

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painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jesus. WTF?

I'd pick a different cupcake and say "Ooooh, I hope it's the one with (pick one) on it! That one looks great!"

And be done with it and his idiotic games.


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

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Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crickets are best!!!! then throw yourself a big party with your favorite music and wine because after 9 long hard years that karma bus hit. For some it takes longer , for some never. yours hit so rejoice and gloat and feel good,because f--k him and his stupid cupcake. what I would do right now is to give the attention he wants from you to another. just my opinion , all the best


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

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KatyaCA
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wait until he brings it to you and then ask your DD to get something in another room. Take the cupcake and throw it in the trash before asking him to leave.

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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry but 9 years is long enough to hand him the cupcake back and say exactly what you typed.

I have not remained single because I'm waiting on your sorry ass to come back. Go fuck yourself.

But crickets probably is best.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
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peridot
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Better yet, wait until DD leaves the room, throw it in his face and tell him to leave. I would be saying something to him about not sending messages like that to your DD with stupid stunts like that.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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prowoman
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

W T F !
dude, pathetic!
I have not remained single because I'm waiting on your sorry ass to come back. Go fuck yourself.

I personally loved your would have been response!
My answering text would be.....Which one is for me????

momentintime had me chuckling too

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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You guys are awesome! Makes me feel better already. I hate that he is doing this to DD too though. She is 15 years old so I can be more frank with her but on some level if he tries to make it sound like he's trying to be available to me and I don't want him therefore I'm the bad guy then I will absolutely freak out on him.

I would also like to say to him, "dude, don't take a day that should have been special and turn it into a tool to manipulate me and my emotions so that you can score a booty call. You spoiled that day for me so don't you dare try to use it for your purposes now."

It's also creepy that he is even acting like this towards me when I have shown him how I feel about him lately. The way I dealt out the facts in court and used information I had to make him pay should have made him really want to avoid me. I'm beginning to think that only now does he respect me in his own fucked up way.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you should text back a "special order" with the date of Dday, or better yet, your divorce date. :)

Unfortunately for me, my wedding day and divorce day are the same... But hoping yours are different! What a Dooosh.

[This message edited by PurpleRose at 6:01 PM, December 23rd (Monday)]


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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
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careerlady
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG. WTF. LOL. ROFLMAO. Seriously? Way too much eggnog or something!

I think the best response is "which one is for me?" And maybe reference a different one. Because that date doesn''t even REGISTER for you anymore. What a dooshbag. What is wrong with these people? Sheesh!!!

[This message edited by careerlady at 8:21 PM, December 23rd, 2013 (Monday)]


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Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Holy wackadoo insanity, Batman!

Could he be more ridiculous?


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WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really? He really did that? So here's what I am thinking, OW just left him and he has a huge judgment against him to pay you. So, if he "romances" you, then he not only gets a soft place to land, he doesn't have to pay you. Yeah, that's gonna happen


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really? He really did that? So here's what I am thinking, OW just left him and he has a huge judgment against him to pay you. So, if he "romances" you, then he not only gets a soft place to land, he doesn't have to pay you. Yeah, that's gonna happen

Irishlass, I think you might have nailed it. It certainly has probably crossed his mind.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 12:21 AM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nine years. NINE?

Kill me now. Seriously. Yuck.

I have not remained single because I'm waiting on your sorry ass to come back. Go fuck yourself.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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