hate it, hate it, hate it.
We're not even anywhere that we can take a quick 10 minute walk for re-grouping. There's a great big ole' elephant in the room now.
If touch or a hug would calm you, maybe ask him to give your hand a squeeze the next time he acknowledges such a thing? That way he's not adding his helplessness to yours?
It's awkward, and that look is almost like they aren't sure if you're going to start throwing things or let it go. So awful.
Usually when stuff like that happens WH will grab my hand and squeeze. We both triggered like crazy during Catching Fire. I'm still not happy with the love triangle... Wasn't a fan in the book, either. Now it just makes me want to throw up.
[This message edited by steadfast1973 at 8:03 PM, December 23rd (Monday)]
I know how you are feeling; it was a couple months ago so I am over it now but in my case my sweet little three old knew and really liked the OW, so he occasionally asks me where she is... it really sucks. On one occasion a few months back DS said to me, "Mommy, can you be OW? I want you to be OW." I immediately burst into tears; I know he didn't really understand and didn't really mean it but it was devastating nonetheless. Did your WH comfort you past the trigger at least?
Forgiveness means understanding, acceptance and giving up on looking back.
My WH was moving something out of the garage the other day and I offered help. He replies, "No, I can do it by myself." (years of cyber affairs/porn/self-gratification...um, yeah, I'm sure you can, sweetheart). Even the most innocent/natural of responses just makes me shake my head nowadays. Everything seems like a double entendre for sex and triggers something. Oy.
You know, TV and movies are killing me, lately. Too much adultery, unhealthy boundaries, and hookers. We've had to turn several movies off because of triggers. And the sex is graphic. I mean, I am getting really bored watching FWH play video games all the time, but I'd rather that than these movies getting him back on porn...