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User Topic: xmil came to my door yesterday
better4me
♀ 30341
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...and she wanted to "make nice". I haven't talked with her in over a year. I'm in contact with my former sister in law who has let me know that XMIL has continued to say some not so nice things about me...for instance, she has told one niece, with whom I have a close relationship, that she shouldn't be friends with me since I rejected my X. She still "blames" me and minimizes his behavior--sees him as the victim in this. I know XMIL puts on this "sweet lady" front to everyone, thinks that way of herself too, and yet I know that she really has a dark place in her soul too...she's still mad at me for not taking the cheating pos back.

In our 20 minute conversation, she informed me about my XFIL's health issues, he is experiencing dementia in addition to his Parkinson's disease and has been in a care facility for the past two months. Acted as if this was the reason for her visit, to get me up to date but really asking for my sympathy. And then, and I suspect, the real reason for her visit--she fished for information and asked me if I was dating. Since it is NONE OF HER F*CKING BUSINESS, I said "no" and she quickly said "XWS isn't seeing anyone either, maybe you two could try again" My reply: "Too much water under the bridge" but what I really wanted to say was, "What are you smoking? Crack?"

OMFG. She's toxic to me...just toxic...clueless, delusional, self serving and toxic...

My worry now is that she will inform XH about her conversation with me...encourage him to get back in contact with me...and the thought of that makes me just cringe. He lives in another city now, I suppose he may come back for Christmas and I just hope he is smart enough to stay out of my way! I'll be a lot less "pleasant" to him if I see him...

shit, shit, shit


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3267 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How depressing.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10153 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
She11ybeanz
♀ 27457
Member # 27457
Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMFG. She's toxic to me...just toxic...clueless, delusional, self serving and toxic...

My worry now is that she will inform XH about her conversation with me...encourage him to get back in contact with me...and the thought of that makes me just cringe. He lives in another city now, I suppose he may come back for Christmas and I just hope he is smart enough to stay out of my way! I'll be a lot less "pleasant" to him if I see him...

shit, shit, shit

This post was like a huge F*&king reality check for me and how I would TRULY feel if my daughter's sperm donor's mother ACTUALLY attempted to contact me to "make nice" as you said before she dies.....I know it wouldn't be genuine....I know it would only be a bunch of toxic BS....and I Know it would open the flood gates for sperm donor to try to weasel his long leg into the door of my life again....in which case I might have to amputate it at the knee....slam the door shut and weld it for GOOD!

I'm suddenly grateful that they have stayed true to their hateful troll forms and have stayed away from my daughter and I. We have been so much better off without their additional BS making our lives more difficult.

Please please.....stay away from them. If she tries to make contact again...or shows up at your door....either A. don't answer... B. Call the police and threaten a restraining order....or C. Tell her directly to leave you alone and that you have moved on with your life and do not want to have anything to do with them anymore! And, if HE tries to contact you....keep up NC at all costs UNLESS he tries in person....and then refer to the above multiple choice options!!!!

NC NC NC!!!! I must remind myself of this every time I have a weak moment and feel sorry for his dying (hateful cruel and horrible) mother!! Her condition is bad....but I think her horrible son who she has enabled for 38 years has finally worn her down so much emotionally that it has taken a toll on her health and has caused this ailment on her.... for he will surely waste away when she dies....as she was his "life crutch" if you will.

((BIGHUGZ)) Run like hell....and change the locks on your doors..... seriously... NC NC NC!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Saleschick
♀ 39772
Member # 39772
Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, December 23rd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe take it as a compliment. She probably knows you are actually good for her son.

My XMIL would like to see us back together. My ex (after some therapy sessions) has even admitted he would not have the career and success he has without me.


Posts: 72 | Registered: Jul 2013
cmego
♀ 30346
Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 6:22 AM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((better))))))


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4284 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
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