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damncutekitty (original poster member #5929) posted at 5:27 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
I moved out of my marital home on December 23, 2005. It pretty much ruined Christmas for me for years, not just that first one.
I was more or less single for the following 7 years. I dated a bit off and on, but never was in a serious LTR. And I resented/hated being single for at least HALF of that time. Especially at the holidays, being around my family, most of whom are married and me being the lone divorcee. Ugh...
So I know how much the holidays can suck when you are hurting. And I want you all to know IT DOES GET BETTER. I also want to tell you it doesn't necessarily get better because you meet someone else. I learned a lot in my almost a decade of single life, the biggest lesson being to LOVE LIFE NO MATTER WHAT MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS.
Take the reins on your holidays this year. Invent new traditions. Do things that give you joy. Spend time with people you enjoy being around and try to minimize time with the ones who don't. (maybe drink a toast to not being with your awful inlaws this year, if that's your situation)
But most of all remember that even though some years the holidays may suck, it won't be every year. It will get better. *hugs*
12/18/15 found out my now EX boyfriend was trolling CL for underage girls. From the cops. The fun never stops.
PhoenixRising88 ( member #35214) posted at 5:57 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
Thanks for sharing this!
Me: BS(45)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(52). D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/13. Divorced 1/10/14.
New chapter of my life- married 11/13/15 to the man I'd thought I would never find.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.
hurting2much ( member #25643) posted at 7:41 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
Thanks for this post...came right at a time when I needed to hear that things will get better!!
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 7:49 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
No doubt the holidays have gotten a whole better since the first one after D day
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 8:32 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
Harriet ( member #34543) posted at 8:42 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
I really like this post. Merry Christmas, CuteKitty!
D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12
Rainbows ( member #39362) posted at 12:19 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
Thanks for sharing. This is my first Xmas since dday and it's harder than expected. It's nice to hear there is light at the end of the tunnel.
There is always a rainbow after every storm.
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 2:03 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
To all my friends IRL I am the poster girl for positivity.
But ya know something? I just don't see it happening for me. I'm pushing 56 years old. I have TONS of good stuff going for me but I'm just not seeing me meeting anyone and forming a permanent relationship. I live in the middle of nowhere and the men around here..... 
DCK...thanks for sharing but I just don't feel that way.
I'm trying to come to peace with the fact that in all likelihood I'm single for the rest of my days.
(sigh) Not a bad thing, but not what I wanted.
Merry Christmas everyone.
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
newlysingle ( member #38735) posted at 5:06 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
I also needed to hear this. I've been so depressed today and had to paste a fake smile on my face for the kids. I have no family here, do it was just the three of us today.
I will say though, that we ran to get batteries tonight and I drove past a car with a couple that was engaged in an intense screaming match. I was happy to say that I'd rather be single than be in a relationship like that!
[This message edited by newlysingle at 11:07 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)]
BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 1:42 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
I'm so happy to hear that you are in a good place. I remember some of your older posts and the struggles you shared. Thanks for the positive post and update!
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
ray-ray ( member #29940) posted at 11:42 AM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
sheila0304 ( member #25041) posted at 1:01 PM on Saturday, December 28th, 2013
I'm so happy for you kitty. And thanks for being a light.
4everfaithful83 ( member #41761) posted at 12:10 AM on Sunday, December 29th, 2013
Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...
ME: 36
1 doggie
DDay: June 24th, 2013
DDay 2 : August 22nd,2017
Left him August 26th, 2017
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