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damncutekitty posted 12/24/2013 11:27 AM

I moved out of my marital home on December 23, 2005. It pretty much ruined Christmas for me for years, not just that first one.

I was more or less single for the following 7 years. I dated a bit off and on, but never was in a serious LTR. And I resented/hated being single for at least HALF of that time. Especially at the holidays, being around my family, most of whom are married and me being the lone divorcee. Ugh...

So I know how much the holidays can suck when you are hurting. And I want you all to know IT DOES GET BETTER. I also want to tell you it doesn't necessarily get better because you meet someone else. I learned a lot in my almost a decade of single life, the biggest lesson being to LOVE LIFE NO MATTER WHAT MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS.

Take the reins on your holidays this year. Invent new traditions. Do things that give you joy. Spend time with people you enjoy being around and try to minimize time with the ones who don't. (maybe drink a toast to not being with your awful inlaws this year, if that's your situation)

But most of all remember that even though some years the holidays may suck, it won't be every year. It will get better. *hugs*

PhoenixRising88 posted 12/24/2013 11:57 AM

Thanks for sharing this!

hurting2much posted 12/24/2013 13:41 PM

Thanks for this post...came right at a time when I needed to hear that things will get better!!

traicionada posted 12/24/2013 13:49 PM

No doubt the holidays have gotten a whole better since the first one after D day

inconnu posted 12/24/2013 14:32 PM

Harriet posted 12/24/2013 14:42 PM

I really like this post. Merry Christmas, CuteKitty!

Rainbows posted 12/24/2013 18:19 PM

Thanks for sharing. This is my first Xmas since dday and it's harder than expected. It's nice to hear there is light at the end of the tunnel.

k94ever posted 12/24/2013 20:03 PM

To all my friends IRL I am the poster girl for positivity.

But ya know something? I just don't see it happening for me. I'm pushing 56 years old. I have TONS of good stuff going for me but I'm just not seeing me meeting anyone and forming a permanent relationship. I live in the middle of nowhere and the men around here.....

DCK...thanks for sharing but I just don't feel that way.

I'm trying to come to peace with the fact that in all likelihood I'm single for the rest of my days.

(sigh) Not a bad thing, but not what I wanted.

Merry Christmas everyone.

k9

newlysingle posted 12/24/2013 23:06 PM

I also needed to hear this. I've been so depressed today and had to paste a fake smile on my face for the kids. I have no family here, do it was just the three of us today.

I will say though, that we ran to get batteries tonight and I drove past a car with a couple that was engaged in an intense screaming match. I was happy to say that I'd rather be single than be in a relationship like that!

[This message edited by newlysingle at 11:07 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)]

NaiveAgain posted 12/25/2013 07:42 AM

I'm so happy to hear that you are in a good place. I remember some of your older posts and the struggles you shared. Thanks for the positive post and update!

ray-ray posted 12/28/2013 05:42 AM

Love this post!

sheila0304 posted 12/28/2013 07:01 AM

I'm so happy for you kitty. And thanks for being a light.

4everfaithful83 posted 12/28/2013 18:10 PM

Great post! Thank you!!