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Alyssamd24 posted 12/24/2013 11:44 AM

Since dday #1 I have been thinking of writing a letter to my bh..I have constantly put it off though cuz I didnt know what to say or how to say it.

Since it is Christmas eve and 3 days away from our first antiversary I have finally written the letter to my bh...I am going to give it to him tonight after celebrating Christmas eve with his family.

I am nervous to give it to him but am glad I finally wrote it...I hope reading it will make him feel a little better and make the next few days a little easier on him.

Kelany posted 12/24/2013 12:22 PM

I think this will be wonderful. I've always appreciated heartfelt notes from my husband.

numb&dumb posted 12/24/2013 12:28 PM

Alyssamd24

I still carry a letter my W wrote to me earlier on in R. Something about it stuck with me. If I was in a bad place, I was able to pull it out and read it.

Writing things out allow the thoughts and feeling to be explained a little clearer and the reader can take time to absorb the contents.

Be sincere. Read it to him aloud and then give it to him. You'd be amazed how such a small thing can really be a great tool for healing.

Brandon808 posted 12/24/2013 12:51 PM

I commend you for taking that initiative. Speaking as a BH who never got such a letter I only wish my wso had shown that kind of remorse.

Skan posted 12/24/2013 15:39 PM

My FWH doesn't write much at all, so when I receive a letter from him, I treasure it.

lostcovenants posted 12/24/2013 15:44 PM

What a wonderful idea. I would give every present under the tree with my name on it for such a letter. I pray he receives it in the spirit you are giving it in.

kabee posted 12/25/2013 09:58 AM

I can relate to Brandon808. My WH could barely write an nc letter to the OW let alone a heartfelt letter to me. Your letter will be a wonderful gift. It is considerate. I guess that was all I was looking for was some consideration. I never received it. You are on the fright track. Merry Christmas!

Skan posted 12/25/2013 12:40 PM

So, how did the letter go?

Alyssamd24 posted 12/25/2013 20:23 PM

The letter went over really well...I gave it to him last night after our DD went to bed....he didn't say much about it, just read it and said "thank you for that". I could tell though by the way he said it and the way he looked after it had touched him.

AML04 posted 12/26/2013 11:08 AM

What a beautiful gift.

wifehad5 posted 12/26/2013 11:09 AM

Kap12 posted 12/26/2013 14:56 PM

Great idea!!

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