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Alyssamd24 (original poster member #39005) posted at 5:44 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
Since dday #1 I have been thinking of writing a letter to my bh..I have constantly put it off though cuz I didnt know what to say or how to say it.
Since it is Christmas eve and 3 days away from our first antiversary I have finally written the letter to my bh...I am going to give it to him tonight after celebrating Christmas eve with his family.
I am nervous to give it to him but am glad I finally wrote it...I hope reading it will make him feel a little better and make the next few days a little easier on him.
Sometimes the worst thing that happens to you.....the thing you think you can't survive....its the thing that makes you better than you used to be.
Kelany ( member #34755) posted at 6:22 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
I think this will be wonderful. I've always appreciated heartfelt notes from my husband.
BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
numb&dumb ( member #28542) posted at 6:28 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
Alyssamd24
I still carry a letter my W wrote to me earlier on in R. Something about it stuck with me. If I was in a bad place, I was able to pull it out and read it.
Writing things out allow the thoughts and feeling to be explained a little clearer and the reader can take time to absorb the contents.
Be sincere. Read it to him aloud and then give it to him. You'd be amazed how such a small thing can really be a great tool for healing.
Dday 8/31/11. EA/PA. Lied to for 3 years.
Bring it, life. I am ready for you.
Brandon808 ( member #35619) posted at 6:51 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
I commend you for taking that initiative. Speaking as a BH who never got such a letter I only wish my wso had shown that kind of remorse.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 9:39 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
My FWH doesn't write much at all, so when I receive a letter from him, I treasure it.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
lostcovenants ( member #40637) posted at 9:44 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
What a wonderful idea. I would give every present under the tree with my name on it for such a letter. I pray he receives it in the spirit you are giving it in. 
DDs, 1977 (prostitutes), 7/8/13 (LTA MOW), 11/14 (CL), 9/1/15 (PA).
Porn, 2DUIs, blame-shifting. I told both families & adult kids. I was suicidal and cutting.
I moved out for 2 years, he asked me to come home 10/16. R w exit plan.
STD discovered
kabee ( new member #37816) posted at 3:58 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
I can relate to Brandon808. My WH could barely write an nc letter to the OW let alone a heartfelt letter to me. Your letter will be a wonderful gift. It is considerate. I guess that was all I was looking for was some consideration. I never received it. You are on the fright track. Merry Christmas!
BW 49
WS 50
Married 21 yrs.
2 yr LTA
Many other indiscretions
D-Day #1 9/14/12 D-Day #2 10/9/12
Gaslighting the whole time until final contact on 12/24/12
Tried R
Now trying D
"The grass is only greener where you water it."
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 6:40 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
So, how did the letter go?
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Alyssamd24 (original poster member #39005) posted at 2:23 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
The letter went over really well...I gave it to him last night after our DD went to bed....he didn't say much about it, just read it and said "thank you for that". I could tell though by the way he said it and the way he looked after it had touched him.
Sometimes the worst thing that happens to you.....the thing you think you can't survive....its the thing that makes you better than you used to be.
AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 5:08 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 5:09 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Kap12 ( member #41759) posted at 8:56 PM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Great idea!!
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