I feel like after the affair, its hard to accept the fact that he loves me. He is not good at expressing how he feels. Getting him to show jealousy was one way...
It takes a lot of work on their end to rebuild what they have broken. Feeling loved, it took a long time for me to feel it, really, deep in my heart feel it. It's hard.
But jealousy isn't love. Ask for what you need, make sure he is going to IC, doing the work he needs to do to recognize what in him is broken enough to let him cheat.
I hope you are in IC too, it's a 2 way street, this healing. It's long and slow, but so worth it.
I am glad you saw it for what it was and put a stop to it before you let it get out of control.