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Saleschick posted 12/24/2013 20:01 PM

Got stood up on Christmas Eve! I am still reeling from my exs infidelity after a 28 year relationship. I made the decision to start dating despite my Divorce Care groups recommendation to wait 1- 2 years. Started dating a younger guy and we hit it off great initially. He even took a couple vacation days to go site seeing with me. He stood me up 10 days ago. We discussed when family obligations come up just let me know. Well, he did it again tonight. We were to exchange gifts today. He claims he was not able to get off of work early so ate with his parents and they are now headed to church. He never texted me until I texted him at 8pm asking if I should eat without him. His longest relationship was 8 mos and I knew that was a red flag but chalked some of that up to his military service and college. Just sucks anyway, but my own fault for jumping into the dating scene too early. Thanks for letting me vent!!

PhoenixRisen posted 12/24/2013 20:08 PM

((Sales))
You deserve so much better!
screw him... on to better relationships.
If your divorce care group recommended you wait... maybe it was so you could see those red flags and ACT on them. Sounds like you saw them but let them go because you wanted a relationship (I know exactly what that feels like). I make excuses left and right for someones bad behavior (like you did with his military and college.
Maybe it's time we both took behavior at face value and just classified is as good. or bad. without our caring soles trying to fill in the blanks with excuses.
(((hugs)))

cayc posted 12/24/2013 20:18 PM

Selfish guy, bullet dodged.

Since it's Christmas Eve though, it has a greater impact. There are plenty of good men out there. Men who keep their word. They'll still be there when you're ready

(((saleschick)))

Williesmom posted 12/24/2013 20:24 PM

I'm sorry that you got up. That sucks.

Saleschick posted 12/24/2013 20:34 PM

It does suck and since he friended me on Facebook after our first date, I have to unfriend his ass now too!

tryingagain74 posted 12/24/2013 20:39 PM

Bah, humbug to him.

I'm watching It's a Wonderful Life right now-- you're better off curling up with some hot chocolate in your pajamas and watching this great film than worrying about that doofus.

Next! You're better than that!

Saleschick posted 12/25/2013 00:23 AM

Woo Hoo...
I ended up finding and attending a late night Candlelight Service at a local church. Also, I thanked God for helping me dodge a bullet with this guy. Thanks for all the support today fellow SI folks!

NaiveAgain posted 12/25/2013 07:50 AM

I'm sorry (((Saleschick)))

Chrysalis123 posted 12/25/2013 08:49 AM

I am sorry he is such a loser. Now time to lose him...lesson learned, dust off, and enjoy today!

Saleschick posted 12/25/2013 13:20 PM

Thanks for all the support
Seeing pics of my ex in NYC for the holiday is not helping today but my stupid fault for looking on his social media sites....

jo2love posted 12/25/2013 13:42 PM

(((Sales)))