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Saleschick (original poster member #39772) posted at 2:01 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
Got stood up on Christmas Eve! I am still reeling from my exs infidelity after a 28 year relationship. I made the decision to start dating despite my Divorce Care groups recommendation to wait 1- 2 years. Started dating a younger guy and we hit it off great initially. He even took a couple vacation days to go site seeing with me. He stood me up 10 days ago. We discussed when family obligations come up just let me know. Well, he did it again tonight. We were to exchange gifts today. He claims he was not able to get off of work early so ate with his parents and they are now headed to church. He never texted me until I texted him at 8pm asking if I should eat without him. His longest relationship was 8 mos and I knew that was a red flag but chalked some of that up to his military service and college. Just sucks anyway, but my own fault for jumping into the dating scene too early. Thanks for letting me vent!!
PhoenixRisen ( member #35912) posted at 2:08 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
((Sales))
You deserve so much better!
screw him... on to better relationships.
If your divorce care group recommended you wait... maybe it was so you could see those red flags and ACT on them. Sounds like you saw them but let them go because you wanted a relationship (I know exactly what that feels like). I make excuses left and right for someones bad behavior (like you did with his military and college.
Maybe it's time we both took behavior at face value and just classified is as good. or bad. without our caring soles trying to fill in the blanks with excuses.
(((hugs)))
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 2:18 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
Selfish guy, bullet dodged.
Since it's Christmas Eve though, it has a greater impact. There are plenty of good men out there. Men who keep their word. They'll still be there when you're ready 
(((saleschick)))
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 2:24 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
I'm sorry that you got up. That sucks.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Saleschick (original poster member #39772) posted at 2:34 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
It does suck and since he friended me on Facebook after our first date, I have to unfriend his ass now too!
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 2:39 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
Bah, humbug to him.
I'm watching It's a Wonderful Life right now-- you're better off curling up with some hot chocolate in your pajamas and watching this great film than worrying about that doofus.
Next! You're better than that!
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Saleschick (original poster member #39772) posted at 6:23 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
Woo Hoo...
I ended up finding and attending a late night Candlelight Service at a local church. Also, I thanked God for helping me dodge a bullet with this guy. Thanks for all the support today fellow SI folks!
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 1:50 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
I'm sorry (((Saleschick)))
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:49 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
I am sorry he is such a loser. Now time to lose him...lesson learned, dust off, and enjoy today!
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
Saleschick (original poster member #39772) posted at 7:20 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
Thanks for all the support
Seeing pics of my ex in NYC for the holiday is not helping today but my stupid fault for looking on his social media sites.... 
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 7:42 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
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