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User Topic: Screw you ftfred
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So last night while putting DS10 to bed, he pulls out his wallet and tries to give me money "for presents." I told him keep it, he's saving "for a car," lol.

Then he finds the wallet-sized professional family picture we took 2 years ago just before Christmas in his wallet. He takes it out, snuggles it, cries a little, and said he wished we could all be a family again.

Damn I hate my ex..


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2648 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
badmedicine
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate your ex too!! Poor little guy your DS. I hope you didn't feel sad for too long. Holidays are sooo hard I'm learning.


"The wishbone will never replace the backbone." -Will Henry
"This wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it." -Dorothy Parker

Posts: 208 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ButterflyGirl)))) FTG.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 26153 | Registered: Aug 2011
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's an ass.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3630 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He takes it out, snuggles it, cries a little, and said he wished we could all be a family again.

Oh Puh-leeze. Isn't ftfred still with OW?


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8181 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Selfish bastards, to hell with them, every one!


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 883 | Registered: Aug 2011
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really? Cause that's attractive behavior in a grown man.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1800 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Skan
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yes, how attractive. An Adulterer, crying, clinging to photos of the family he screwed over, in front of his child, on Christmas Eve.

How could you RESIST such a squirrel-balled twat?


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5094 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
whiteflower99
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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe it was the DS10 who cried. Which is tragic and sad.
Poor baby.
I hate that these WS's never see the damage they deal.


What are you pretending not to know?

me FBS
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way; no longer defining mysel


Posts: 1777 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Greensboro, NC
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I believe it was the DS10 who cried.

Correct. I haven't been in the same room with FTFred since court last month when he got his ass handed to him.

He got every other weekend visitation, and what makes me the most sad is I don't even think it bothers him. I think the garnished child support bothers him, and I think he wants other people to think it bothers him that he sees them so little, but I don't think he really cares. It's just my fault somehow and whatever to him.

Me, on the other hand, would be bawling my eyes out in a fetal position if I had to be away from my babies for that long. It's taken me a long time to realize and comprehend that he just doesn't care. It doesn't make sense to me, so I've had trouble processing it. He constantly blamed me for "keeping them" from him, but he never even asked for them! How can I keep them from him when he never even asked for them??

And yes Gonna, he's still with OW. Since he was forced to leave the marital home, he got an apartment with OW and her kid. And would you believe he STILL tells the kids they are just "friends"??? Ex and OW have a room, DS10 and OW's kid share a room, and DS 6 is on his own. And whatever planet they are on, somehow this is defined as "friends." When OW was texting me one time about 6 months ago, I confronted her about their lying to the kids about their relationship, and she said, "You want us to tell them the truth???" Um, yeah bitch. Tell them the truth and let them know everything is going to be okay. All this lying and confusing them, can't think of a worse way to handle it really..

I was so tempted tonight to email him and tell him what happened with DS10 and the picture, but NC, I know, and sad to say, it wouldn't matter anyway. I can't believe my kids really have a father who doesn't give a shit. So unfair to them..


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2648 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 11:48 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Butterfly girl, your kids are so fortunate to have you. I am so sorry he is such a doosh.. It sucks, i know.

Wishing you a wonderful Christmas.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 1:23 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Make sure you tell that sweet boy that you are still a family!! Somehow kids think that they lose that if the family is "broken." I stopped hearing this after I told the kids that we were a family, and a strong perfectly wonderful family, complete. We defined our family. We didn't need daddy to come back or to find a new daddy. We were family. Period. Seems obvious, but I guess it wasn't to the boys.

YOU are awesome. And your DS is so sweet to try to help with the presents. What a giving boy he is!!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5906 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:25 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ButterflyGirl & DS)))

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 2:00 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well crap. I'm sorry, BG.....when I first read that, I thought that ftfred was the one pulling the *cuddle the picture* crap. And it irritated the shit out of me --> thus, my snarky, eye-rolling response.

When re-read in the context of your 'little' pulling out that picture....damn. That's a heart-breaker.
{{{DS and MaMaBear}}}


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8181 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
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