[This message edited by badmedicine at 8:22 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)]
I not only loved my ex, but I was still in love with him when I filed for divorce. It was one of the most painful things I've ever had to do, but it was the right thing to do. I know it's hard now, but it does get better. Truly, it does.
Peace be with you and sending you strength!
I don't think STBXH meant to hurt me. I know he's sorry and wants to R, but it's just not possible in our case. They just don't understand that it's too little too late.
SOME THINGS SORRY DOESN'T FIX. ((hugs))
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
We all know that this is hard and no one deserves to have it made even harder by the person who did this to us in the first place. (((BadMedicne)))
But I was the one who kicked him out (twice!) and filed, put the d on hold, then opened it up again.
Stay strong. It is so damn hard... but you will get to the other side. Merry Christmas to you!
If he mans the hell up, you'll know. You can pause the D, or even go thru w/it if he isn't doing what you want/need him to do. Take care of you first.
I still loved my XH as I was pushing the D along, but he didn't man up, after 3+ years, so it was time for me to bounce. It hurts, but it hurts less & less as time passes.
2 year Sexting/PA 2012-2014 OW2
I divorced him in May 2014
Hoping my new blue bag can keep me strong!!
[This message edited by momentintime at 1:43 AM, December 30th (Monday)]
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
My ex said all the right things but was still too selfish to do what I needed. So I continued divorce. You already know you are strong enough to divorce so nothing says you can't pause and then finish it.
I had to make sure I gave my marriage every chance there was. Still one of the hardest things I have done because I loved my ex still and it was so hard on him.
"Please talk to me! You'll see I've changed. I want to be married now and I know what I have to do to help you heal from this". etc. blah blah.
^^^^^^^ This stood out to me-he knows what he has to do!
Is he doing it? No words just actions.