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Divorce/Separation :
ftg! I don't want him to be nice!

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 Gemini71 (original poster member #40115) posted at 3:35 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013

So it's Christmas Eve. DK's are with STBXH until 8:30 tomorrow morning except for DD who will never spend the night under the same roof as STBXH. I've given up trying to get the Insurance Company to approve my AD, and track down an open pharmacy to pay $200 out of pocket for my refill. DF (darling father) is watching "The Bicycle Thief", probably one of the most depressing movies of all time. I'm arguing with DM (darling mother) about boundaries in disciplining the DKs (no, she cannot ground them all from video games indefinitely because one DK won't fess up to problem). All while taping up the vent in my bathroom so I don't have to smell the dead mouse in the ceiling anymore.

So I decide to fill stockings and 'hang them by the chimney with care' to cheer myself up. DD walks in the door carrying a box of Cinnabon Cinnamon Rolls, my traditional gift from STBXH. DD hands them to me saying "Here, Dad gave these to me to give to you."

The good news is that I manage not to burst out crying until DD has retreated to her room (she's 16, it's what she does).

So let me just say, FUCK THAT GUY, I DON'T WANT HIM TO BE NICE!!! I don't want to be reminded of better times. I don't need anything else during this time to point out just how fucked up everything is BECAUSE OF HIS DECISIONS!!! He doesn't get to try to make it up to me because SOME THINGS SORRY DOESN'T FIX!!

We are Divorcing, that means "Fuck off and die!"

Maybe I'll put the Cinnabon Rolls in the ceiling with the dead mouse so his buddies can give him one hell of a send off.

There, I feel better now. Thanks for listening.

DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 3:48 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013

Ugh Gemini. That seriously sucks reindeer balls. I'm sorry you are struggling with this tonight!

He is absolutely a jerk. FTG!

divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...

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caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 7:48 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013

He doesn't get to try to make it up to me because SOME THINGS SORRY DOESN'T FIX!!

And if he does, it damn sure better be more than Cinnabon rolls... I don't care how good they are!!!

But seriously, eat those bad boys for breakfast and FTG.

Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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badmedicine ( member #41692) posted at 1:52 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013

We are Divorcing. That means "Fuck off and die!"

^^^THIS^^^^

....is totally true. My WH is just feeling sorry for himself. I think this is the first time in his life that he has actually had consequences. And cinnamon rolls + sorry isn't any better. We also had a mouse problem at my parents house!! It got

caught in a trap though so much less gross. Hang in there. (Me, too), and FTG!

"The wishbone will never replace the backbone." -Will Henry
"This wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it." -Dorothy Parker

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painfulpast ( member #41038) posted at 2:24 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013

DD hands them to me saying "Here, Dad gave these to me to give to you."

When I read this line, my jaw dropped, literally.

Are you fucking kidding me? What a complete ASSHOLE. He probably wants to 'get along for the kids' and is having fond memories of the life he shredded.

On Christmas eve he pulls this. FTG!!!

DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband

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solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 2:41 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013

Thing is, he wasn't being nice. He was being passive-aggressive. And he involved your daughter, which is unconscionable.

So don't ponder the what-ifs and think of better times. Think of his manipulation and douchebaggery.

It wasn't nice.

And he KNOWS it.

BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams

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careerlady ( member #16958) posted at 3:34 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013

I'd be like "(chew), (munch), FTG, yum!, (swallow), FTG". Might not be enough to make up for anything but deliciously edible.

The waywards love to take and cake eat, etc. As long as you put no meaning behind it I don't think there's any problem taking what little you can enjoy from STBX.

Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
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 Gemini71 (original poster member #40115) posted at 11:38 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013

So glad to hear that it wasn't a 'nice gesture.' Sometimes it's hard to judge from the inside.

I think I'm gonna go have some cinnamon rolls with the kids. FTG.

DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

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BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 2:37 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

Totally enjoy those cinnamon rolls ... I mean, cinnamon ... sugar ... cinnamon ... sugar ... flour ... cinnamon ... just because the Asshat bought them doesn't mean they aren't nummy!! I agree totally with CareerLady ... munch 'asshole' chew "dickwad" .... swallow .. never again for you, you prick! buahahahahah

Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

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katiesmom ( member #39074) posted at 4:38 AM on Sunday, December 29th, 2013

I know the feeling . I also hate when my ex is "nice" to me. Ex asshole has given me a cheapsss Christmas gift the past three years from him and the sorry ass home wrecker wife . Yeah, those tea candles and pot holders make up for the damage you both caused! Sorry ass losers!!

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