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User Topic: ftg! I don't want him to be nice!
Gemini71
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Member # 40115
Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So it's Christmas Eve. DK's are with STBXH until 8:30 tomorrow morning except for DD who will never spend the night under the same roof as STBXH. I've given up trying to get the Insurance Company to approve my AD, and track down an open pharmacy to pay $200 out of pocket for my refill. DF (darling father) is watching "The Bicycle Thief", probably one of the most depressing movies of all time. I'm arguing with DM (darling mother) about boundaries in disciplining the DKs (no, she cannot ground them all from video games indefinitely because one DK won't fess up to problem). All while taping up the vent in my bathroom so I don't have to smell the dead mouse in the ceiling anymore.

So I decide to fill stockings and 'hang them by the chimney with care' to cheer myself up. DD walks in the door carrying a box of Cinnabon Cinnamon Rolls, my traditional gift from STBXH. DD hands them to me saying "Here, Dad gave these to me to give to you."

The good news is that I manage not to burst out crying until DD has retreated to her room (she's 16, it's what she does).

So let me just say, FUCK THAT GUY, I DON'T WANT HIM TO BE NICE!!! I don't want to be reminded of better times. I don't need anything else during this time to point out just how fucked up everything is BECAUSE OF HIS DECISIONS!!! He doesn't get to try to make it up to me because SOME THINGS SORRY DOESN'T FIX!!

We are Divorcing, that means "Fuck off and die!"

Maybe I'll put the Cinnabon Rolls in the ceiling with the dead mouse so his buddies can give him one hell of a send off.
There, I feel better now. Thanks for listening.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1960 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
PurpleRose
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Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, December 24th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh Gemini. That seriously sucks reindeer balls. I'm sorry you are struggling with this tonight!

He is absolutely a jerk. FTG!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3630 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 1:48 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He doesn't get to try to make it up to me because SOME THINGS SORRY DOESN'T FIX!!

And if he does, it damn sure better be more than Cinnabon rolls... I don't care how good they are!!!

But seriously, eat those bad boys for breakfast and FTG.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5906 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
badmedicine
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Default  Posted: 7:52 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We are Divorcing. That means "Fuck off and die!"


^^^THIS^^^^
....is totally true. My WH is just feeling sorry for himself. I think this is the first time in his life that he has actually had consequences. And cinnamon rolls + sorry isn't any better. We also had a mouse problem at my parents house!! It got
caught in a trap though so much less gross. Hang in there. (Me, too), and FTG!


"The wishbone will never replace the backbone." -Will Henry
"This wasn't just plain terrible, this was fancy terrible. This was terrible with raisins in it." -Dorothy Parker

Posts: 208 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DD hands them to me saying "Here, Dad gave these to me to give to you."

When I read this line, my jaw dropped, literally.

Are you fucking kidding me? What a complete ASSHOLE. He probably wants to 'get along for the kids' and is having fond memories of the life he shredded.

On Christmas eve he pulls this. FTG!!!


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1898 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thing is, he wasn't being nice. He was being passive-aggressive. And he involved your daughter, which is unconscionable.

So don't ponder the what-ifs and think of better times. Think of his manipulation and douchebaggery.

It wasn't nice.

And he KNOWS it.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 9019 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd be like "(chew), (munch), FTG, yum!, (swallow), FTG". Might not be enough to make up for anything but deliciously edible.

The waywards love to take and cake eat, etc. As long as you put no meaning behind it I don't think there's any problem taking what little you can enjoy from STBX.


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 943 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad to hear that it wasn't a 'nice gesture.' Sometimes it's hard to judge from the inside.

I think I'm gonna go have some cinnamon rolls with the kids. FTG.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1960 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
BAB61
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Totally enjoy those cinnamon rolls ... I mean, cinnamon ... sugar ... cinnamon ... sugar ... flour ... cinnamon ... just because the Asshat bought them doesn't mean they aren't nummy!! I agree totally with CareerLady ... munch 'asshole' chew "dickwad" .... swallow .. never again for you, you prick! buahahahahah


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
katiesmom
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Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, December 28th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know the feeling . I also hate when my ex is "nice" to me. Ex asshole has given me a cheapsss Christmas gift the past three years from him and the sorry ass home wrecker wife . Yeah, those tea candles and pot holders make up for the damage you both caused! Sorry ass losers!!

Posts: 71 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Kentucky
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