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Hatemyhusband (original poster member #41633) posted at 11:39 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
That's all I can do for my teo kids. But I sit and wonder if he'd rather be texting her. Rather be texting her. Sneaking around. And he's stuck w me bc of kids.
The last two years Xmas was fake. He was texting screwing her
This is not my life. I'm living in a pretend world
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 11:43 AM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
But I sit and wonder if he'd rather be texting her. Rather be texting her. Sneaking around. And he's stuck w me bc of kids.
He is lucky to be with you.
Lucky you didn't toss him out on his ass.
Take the day moment by moment. Watch the kid's faces. Inhale their energy and excitement.
Do what you can. Leave the dishes, the mess can wait, better yet tell him he is in charge of cleaning up today. Sit and take in every minute of your kid's happiness, it will get you through.
Just one day, you can do it.
(((hugs)))
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 2:01 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
As the daughter of parents who wore "game faces" for years---and as the mother of children who are extraordinarily ...vocal...about what they observed: putting on a "game face" for kids not only doesn't work, but causes more harm than good.
Think about what you want from this life. Think about what you can HAVE. (In other words, if a happy marriage with the man to whom your married is not in the cards, be honest with yourself about that.) And then pursue it.
It will set a far better example for your children than wearing a mask and telling lies about who you are in your intimate relationship.
Be true to YOURSELF. The rest will follow.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
sinsof thefather ( member #29295) posted at 4:39 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
((Hatemyhusband)) I hope you can find some joy in watching your kids today.
...second star to the right and straight on till morning.
Hatemyhusband (original poster member #41633) posted at 4:48 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
Game face for kids---- today. Is what I mean
It's xmas
Girlietoo ( member #38719) posted at 6:28 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
Do the very best you can and that will be enough. I still remember the Christmas my mom cried the entire day because my dad left ( to be with another woman). While I understand it more now it still makes me very sad to remember how awful that Christmas was.
Me- 40
Him- 47
March 9, 2013- the day my heart died
lqqk4answ ( new member #41662) posted at 6:45 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
"But I sit and wonder" ... man that is a killer! But it can be a gift if put in right framework!
"he's stuck w me bc of kids" is a tuff thought too....
I think I've been there too many times! Wish you the best in redirecting your thoughts -- it is ever so hard to do, yet seems a must do.
D-Day: 5 Dec 2012
NC date: waiting
Me, BS, 57 years
WW, 53 years
Married 30 years at time.
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