Well, the pyromaniac porn addicted husband has agreed to counseling. After his 'bonfire', he put up the 'tough guy' wall. That broke yesterday afternoon. He started to cry, to apologize, to say he loves me, and agreed to counseling. I told him that the counseling was to be SPECIFICALLY for the porn thing first, and others after. If the counselor changes that, fine, but when asked why he's there - porn. The counselor needs to be experienced in SA as well.
Also, I'm going to the first 2 sessions. I am there to add to what has been happening with him and us, and to make sure he doesn't lie to the counselor.After that, it's his counseling.
We are not 'reconciled'. We are in limbo. Who knows. Today, I'm not worrying about it. Today, I'm fine either way.
Again - you guys are amazing, truly. I wouldn't have done so well these past few days without you guys, and I will be hanging around, just in case.
Thanks all - and Merry Christmas!!