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User Topic: Alone today without gifts and I'm OK
♀ 22722
Member # 22722
Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm an adult survivor of a dysfunctional catholic family that decided half way through my childhood to stop going to church.

I never much cared for church (as a social place) or religion as I was always a skeptic and just didn't believe. Christmas became a three week long period of begging and hinting and feeling hopelessly poor--all about gifts. I grew to hate it.

Now I've lived more than half my life as an atheist and I'm very happy that way. At some point we called a truce on gift giving and agreed to just get together for a meal. That was a huge relief.

Partly because of modest income, parly due to conscious choice, I live simply, making do without many things. I recently put 97% of my things in storage and moved into an RV which I have parked off the grid in a remote wooded place in the mountains. I landed a part time job in the mountains near here so although I'm less than an hour from the hub of Silicon Valley I rarely go there. It is lone-some, quiet, serene, and simple.

Today I am planning a mountain bike ride and expect to greet friends on the trail. I'm bringing the dog to run, and a turkey sandwich.

I don't have to go to STBXWHNPDPAFTG's mom's house and eat her awful food in her filthy house.

I'm alone (well I have my furbaby who is ready to rock and roll ears a flappin') on December 25th; I'm not giving or getting gifts, and I'm ok.

Peace on earth!

FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.

Posts: 2075 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd wish you peace, but it sounds like your soaking in it already. Enjoy your day with your furbaby.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

Posts: 40250 | Registered: Aug 2011
♀ 21964
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have your own little slice of heaven - if you'll pardon the religious-based analogy lol. I think it sounds lovely. Have a great ride today!

Merry Christmas!

Posts: 3446 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
♀ 22870
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like an awesome day.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 9177 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
♀ 20150
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 20722 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a similar upbringing, kk; then had the X's religion (and all the dysfunction that went along with his family.) I'm happy with the universe now.

No gifts here either; living somewhat simply (can't give up my yarn & fabric!) I'd love to take a hike, but it was 9 degrees this morning and I have to go into the lab to remove specimens from the incubator, so I'm just going to catch up on some paperwork, then come home & cook my duck (better than cooking my goose?)

Enjoy your solitude, but don't become a hermit; you're too interesting and nice a person to do that!

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 25302 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
♀ 13326
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ride on kk! No need for Silicon is any thing but peaceful these days.

Divorced in 2010
Enjoying my freedom.

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