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caregiver9000 posted 12/25/2013 13:56 PM

Seriously! I got a 7:05 am text saying just that. HA. I actually, almost almost feel sorry for the sad clown. It sure beats feeling sorry for me!!

Let's compare shall we? Because three years ago I was bawling, sobbing as my kids left my house in the snow to go celebrate with Stretch and the OW for 5 days. Today I am eating Christmas chocolate, elevating my foot, drinking an adult beverage and enjoying a few hours of quiet before the boys return home.

1. I have a beautiful tree decorated as a family. Stretch (so I have been told) has a large poinsettia.

2. I have extended family that has celebrated and supported us all season (and always). Stretch had a family dinner 3 weeks ago because everyone was "too busy" to get together today.

3. The boys are delighted with an abundance of gifts and the unwrapping and magic of Santa and stockings. They tell me dad said "no gifts this year."

4. The boys provided homemade gifts for me and wrapped them with pride. They are Christmas keepers for sure. The boys used money I provided to buy "something" to wrap for dad because I said they should give him something and they didn't want to make him something.

5. I sent happy boys out the door this afternoon, me still in pjs, no make up. Hugs from the boys who will be home later tonight because Stretch can't exercise his parenting time. And I wore all the confidence of a happy divorced exwife who knows I have it better.

6. The boys were showing their new tshirt, toys, and handing him wrapped gifts, with childlike enthusiasm. Him? He looked lost. And useless. Asking if I would be home tonight so he could drop the boys. Sure, and I might have smiled...

7. He has a court date looming for non-compliance with support order. He has to attend or a warrant will be issued. Me? I can attend if I wish. But I don't think it matters so much to me right now. I know what he ought to do, and he does to. He hasn't done it. And Christmas came anyway.

All in all, I LIKE my life. I like what it must look like looking in from the outside. And if he is feeling a wee bit sorry for himself? Well, that would please me just a bit.

Now I will read and enjoy my time with SI, and offer hugs and encouragement to those who need it. Because damn if it doesn't get better!!!

Sad in AZ posted 12/25/2013 14:00 PM

This made me happy. I'm glad you're doing OK through your ordeal. May you always come out smiling!

ItHappened2Me2 posted 12/25/2013 14:01 PM

I want to be you when I grow up!!!

What an uplifting post -- thank you caregiver9000!

Skan posted 12/25/2013 16:16 PM

I'm lifting a ginger beer towards you! After we get through with the flooring, it will be a glass of wine.

Gemini71 posted 12/25/2013 17:14 PM

The best revenge is living well. I hope to be there next year.

SBB posted 12/25/2013 17:30 PM

Pfft!! Merry Krampus more like it.

LOVE this... especially this.

I actually, almost almost feel sorry for the sad clown. It sure beats feeling sorry for me!!

I sent happy boys out the door this afternoon, me still in pjs, no make up. Hugs from the boys who will be home later tonight because Stretch can't exercise his parenting time. And I wore all the confidence of a happy divorced exwife who knows I have it better.

I'm still at the crying after the girls leave stage because I won't see them for a week now but ditto to the rest of it right down to the no make-up (its hot here so my PJs are a little too skimpy for the outside world).

It is Boxing Day here and I spent last night with a bunch of my amazing friends drinking too much punch, singing songs too loud and dancing so much my bum cheeks hurt.

JerseyCowgirl posted 12/25/2013 18:33 PM

Last night I made a wish for all the BS's here on SI that a little good karma would come back to some. I have scoured theposts all day and you were #2! I want to see that good karma coming back to us is the best kind when we realize life is getting so much better...the best kind of revenge. Thank you for posting and giving hope to us that we will get our just rewards and please do enjoy your shining moment!

caregiver9000 posted 12/25/2013 18:42 PM

It was a good moment. And then the Christmas nap was good too.

Much love to my D/S peeps!!

Christmas is almost over and we survived it.

dmari posted 12/25/2013 18:42 PM

Awesome post cg9000!! This is YOUR karma (the sweet beautiful kind) for rising above the shit sandwich you were given. Enjoy today!

rainagain posted 12/25/2013 19:14 PM

you go girl

Merry Christmas

badmedicine posted 12/25/2013 19:26 PM

Now this says "Merry Christmas!" So happy for you, especially considering your post a few days ago and your ankle. May this confidence and satisfaction continue into the new year!

caregiver9000 posted 12/25/2013 19:32 PM

How sweet of you badmedicine to remember my ankle! I have struggled with my physical limitations, but the worry was wasted. (as it usually is, right?)

It all turned out fine, and besides having a little pain from "over doing" with the celebrations, it was pretty awesome all around.

I know I will sleep well tonight!

ChoosingHope posted 12/25/2013 21:49 PM

AWESOME, Care!!! And glad your ankle is feeling better!! I loved every line of your post!!

I had a great Christmas too. He had the kids yesterday, and I had seven invitations to join friends for dinner. I turned them all down and went Christmas shopping all day and visited a sick relative. Then cooking, wrapping, packing before my kiddies arrived home. Today - up to my family's home and we had such a calm, happy, social joyful day. My kids are over the moon.

What a difference two years makes - and thank you Care for always always being such a mentor to me (and many others)!!!

caregiver9000 posted 12/25/2013 22:19 PM

Merry Christmas, Hope. I am glad your day was peaceful and that you did what felt right to you. Best gift of the day that message!!

I appreciate the "mentor" comment, but as it was pointed out, just last week I was a whining mess!! Proof that the roller coaster still rides, that SI is a blessing, and that we don't survive alone.

If one week can bring me from there to here, then please! If you are having the worst holiday ever, give it time!!!

I still hurt, (in my back and ankle. My heart is pretty well healed) but my attitude about the hurting is completely adjusted.

Blessings to all.

FaithFool posted 12/25/2013 22:24 PM

*like*

gahurts posted 12/26/2013 00:15 AM

Awesome caregiver, just awesome!

Griefstricken25 posted 12/26/2013 00:22 AM

You rock, caregiver!

IrishLass518 posted 12/26/2013 00:28 AM

Ya done good CG, ya done good.

sadtoo posted 12/26/2013 01:03 AM

I love this!

DeadMumWalking posted 12/26/2013 03:47 AM

Way to have a Merry Christmas!! Stretch is such an idiot for not appreciating his children. You have come such a long way!

((((cg & kids))))

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