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Topic: Having a pissed off moment!

Roxyme765
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Posted: 2:24 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013

Separated.. Trying to decide if I want to work it out... Spending Christmas together for our daughter.... Came to WS's families for Christmas dinner... I walk into the bathroom and see a piece of furniture that my sister had given us as a wedding present. He had also given another family member a box of my Cd's and other small things he said he didn't have room for (he has moved into an apartment and I am living with a friend. Our house is on the market). He said he is sorry and didn't realize it was a big deal. I am so angry right now. I feel like it's another thing that he did where he didn't consider my feelings at all. He didn't even ask me if it was ok to give these things away. Now I am angry and stuck at his families for another who knows how many hours. I feel like a child throwing a temper tantrum right now.
Arrrgh! Ahhhhh!

Me: BS, 30
Him: WS, 30
D-Day: April 2013 (about 5 years of cheating with multiple OW)
2 or 3? false R.
DIVORCED! 07/2014!!

Posts: 26 | Registered: Dec 2013

karmahappens
♀ 35846
Member # 35846

Posted: 2:32 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013

I am sorry, that is lousy.

What a shit!

Remember why you are there right now, one step at a time. Spend the time engaging with your daughter.

You have time for decision making, today isn't it.

((hugs)) and strength for the rest of the day.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3993 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts

Roxyme765
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Member # 41764

Posted: 2:36 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013

I feel like a big idiot now because we went outside and I yelled at him. Now I have to go back in there and I'm sure all his family thinks I am being a crazy mean person and messing up Christmas. :(

Me: BS, 30
Him: WS, 30
D-Day: April 2013 (about 5 years of cheating with multiple OW)
2 or 3? false R.
DIVORCED! 07/2014!!

Posts: 26 | Registered: Dec 2013

karmahappens
♀ 35846
Member # 35846

Posted: 2:50 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013

What his family thinks of you is none of your concern.

Concentrate on what you can control...just yourself.

You have nothing to be embarassed about, you have done nothing wrong.

Go easy on you.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3993 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts

Skan
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Member # 35812

Posted: 3:33 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013

Be kind to yourself today. You have every right to feel as you do. And tomorrow, get yourself a storage unit and move EVERYTHING that you have the vaguest interest in keeping, into it. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 7595 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California

kra127
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Posted: 7:18 PM, December 25th (Wednesday), 2013

I don't blame you for being pissed. Go to your storage and pick up the stuff that you want. If that's not possible, go to storage and use florescent orange paper to put notes on everything that you don't want to be given away. Maybe WH will get the message that way. Don't worry about his family. Just focus on your daughter and yourself.

Me 42
WS 41
2 young kids, Married 10 yrs
OW 22y/o
Dday 10/8/13
Divorcing

Posts: 149 | Registered: Oct 2013

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