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Lex71 posted 12/25/2013 18:15 PM

Bulk of my story in my profile if you want to read.

Living in same house but different rooms and getting through Christmas for kids and family.

She Has been sending me some 'I love you' text, wanting hugs and that kind of stuff. I'm not feeling comfortable with this. If I don't reply to text I get several questions about 'did you see I sent a text' or if I don't say 'love you' back she makes like I have done something wrong and if I don't hug her she goes something lie 'oh we're back to that are we?'. She just doesn't get it, she's agreed to MC but I'm not sure she will work at it. My gut instinct hasn't let me down so far....

Any conversation about A results in deflection, she won't willingly let me see phone or computer details because it's too controlling. She hasn't even attempted an apology for what she did.

Denial, attempting torug sweep, no remorse and thinks a few 'I love you' can make a difference. Well, no, it can't. Maybe when I move out and we start MC it will wake her up....

Gajit posted 12/25/2013 18:31 PM

The 180 or NC strikes me as very relevant.
I know it's hard at first but is worth it....

Sending you strength.

Clarrissa posted 12/25/2013 19:33 PM

FWW here. No, she doesn't get it. She's doing *nothing* except try to rugsweep. And you're right. It's going to take a *lot* more than a few hugs and "I love you"'s to even begin to repair the damage she did.

So yeah, 180 and NC except for kids. It may pull her head out of her ass, it may not.

Sorry you're in this position.

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