I was AMAZED how many family and friends knew or suspected FT's behavior. I felt stupid for not seeing it myself but then realized, I loved him and believed him, Why would I think the life we had together was a lie after we had been a couple for 27 yrs?
The truth was he pretended to be the man he thought I wanted. I never knew what an evil person he truly was/is now. He is a NPD and will never admit fault of any kind for anything he does because in his sick brain, he's entitled.
I'm six years from dday and the few times I've seen and talked with FT, I have no idea who he is and count my blessings I don't know him today.
I don't know if you and your wife will R in the future but you are always goingtoknow her on a different level. You will never look at her the same, I'm not saying she is better or worse but you are going to know much about her true self.
Hugs and this shit hurts..
[This message edited by gma56 at 8:36 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)]