So the Gnat and I have been "cordial" as of late. Yes, for the kids sake, but mostly because we got entangled in a child support issue with the state that has been a mess (very long story and not the Gnat's fault), so we've had to work together almost daily trying to get this straightened out.
Anyway, I know I mentioned in another post awhile back about how he tried to shit out on his kids for Christmas. He planned a trip over Christmas with Hello Kitty to visit her redneck family and eat roadkill without even discussing it with me. He was supposed to have the kids on Christmas day. So, I called him out on how shitty of a father he is and he magically changed his flight to get in early this morning. He did take them for the day.
So, we exchanged the kids and about 2 hours later, I get a text from him that says "DD can't stop talking about how great her Xmas at your place was and how full her stocking from Santa was. You did an incredible job this year". Okay, so I debated for awhile about whether to respond or just give crickets. After awhile I did respond with "Tell DD that Santa was knew how good she's done in school and helpful she's been to mommy and her little brother. He knew she was extra good and deserved it".
That was my passive aggressive way of saying "Listen Fucktard, yes, I pulled Xmas out of my ass once again with no help from you. Dd has had to mature beyond her 6 years quickly as she's had to take on extra responsibilities around the house and with her brother. Ya know, since her dad walked out on her to screw his whore and all".
Then a couple of hours after that, I get another text "Merry Christmas Newlysingle." Yeah, that got crickets. I might be cordial, but I'm not your BFF.
Okay, so all my wise SI friends, what is this? I'm thinking he's preparing to manipulate me in some way or that he's buttering me up to tell me that Hello Kitty got a big ring for Xmas. Or possibly my being "cordial" has made him think that I like receiving his warm fuzzy texts. Help me decipher this shit, please!
[This message edited by newlysingle at 1:20 AM, December 26th (Thursday)]
Okay, so all my wise SI friends, what is this? I'm thinking he's preparing to manipulate me in some way
Trust your gut....and the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
Now you know... He's going to run with it to make himself feel better. NC. save yourself the emotional energy!
some of them think Santa sprinkled some forget the past dust on us and we all of a sudden want to be the best of friends with them again.
I think that is what is happening in my life lately. WTF, do they think our memories are like their's? Full of holes?
I can forgive, but I can't forget...
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
. I still have to call the child support office again today as he's still receiving harassing letters from then even though we closed our case.
Why is this your responsibility? Does he not have letters or forms that state that? Is he unable to get them himself? Does the child support office not take his calls and respond to his requests? Is he unable to make photocopies and submit information to them?
You are not his secretary. He wants you to be. He wants YOU to fix his problems. If you fix them, then they are all your fault in the first place, right?
They will not deal with him at all. It's unbelievable. Because the case is in my name, they will not allow him to discuss it at all. It was a mistake that I made that got this horrible ball rolling too, so it's my problem to fix.
OK, fair enough. Sorry to harsh on you.
It is what it is.
He called me all sweet and light to tell me that he knew "we were going to be best of friends once we worked out the details of the divorce". Ummm, let me envision what that will look like...Nope, no, I just am not seeing that!
Then the gift card because "you are the Mother of my children and deserve it". OK. Thanks. Buh-bye.
Everyone should see how nice he is to me! How could I kick such a good guy out??
I think maybe they are filled with the Christmas Spirit?