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GotPlayed posted 12/26/2013 04:50 AM

Dream 1. Trying to get out of a church while a tiger prowled outside. Church was half flooded, like inside a river. I used rope to grab the tiger and water skied using the angry tiger as propulsion. Didn't work and had to run back and hide at the church; frantically closing all the heavy doors. Tiger stayed outside. Dream gets weirder, always about ways for me to escape, then faded.

Dream 2.
We were as a group to a reunion. She brought him. Sat down and made him sit right next to me (WW, OM, me). I could feel the asshole's hip next to mine while I kept as far as possible in my own section of the couch. He kept making comment about everything I said while I kept trying to pretend he wasn't there. I was so upset.

Then at some point WW had the gall to ask me a money related question about a deposit. Because she needed money. I got upset, got up, went to help a music student regarding his teacher not having shown up to class.
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It has been probably five years since I've remembered a dream. This vividly, maybe 10 years.

So now it's 2:38am and I'm wide awake.

million tears posted 12/26/2013 16:35 PM

Dreams were common for me at first. I don't know how to interpret them so I have no idea what your dreams mean. I hate those weird dreams where you wake up and wonder WTH?

I had a very vivid dream about my WH leaving me a long, long time after dday 1. It was so vivid that I woke him up and was mad at him. I wanted to hit him.

I think our minds get overloaded with stress.

GotPlayed posted 12/26/2013 16:52 PM

Yep. Lots of stress on this end, of all types right now. And this was vivid. Smells, touch, feeling of wetness on the first dream, absolutely everything. Like I was there. Even the tiger stuff.

Ever since D-Day Nov 5th I have been waking up at 2AM unprompted in a cold sweat, and having a hard time getting back to sleep. Since my kid with Autism wakes up at 4 about half the time what that means is that I end up sleeping about 2 uninterrupted hours per night (until I finally left the house just on the 23rd, I couldn't go to bed before midnight because my kid takes a midnight medicine that I administer).

Today I woke up at that same time, remembering those two dreams this time. So I guess I may have been having nightmares this whole time, just nothing I can remember until now, when it's piled up.

At some point this stops, right?

musiclovingmom posted 12/26/2013 17:36 PM

I had really vivid nightmares at first too. Probably had them for 8-10 months after dday. I've only had one the I remember since the 12 month mark. So, for me, they have faded.

One of my first nightmares (recurring) had a tiger (who I just knew was OW2). A friend of mine who interprets dreams said that tigers are usually representative of sexual prowess - especially in women. It wasn't want I wanted to hear, but did help me start to sort through the thoughts/fears that were at the heart of the dream.