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eyenight posted 12/26/2013 10:51 AM

I'm dating the guy who thinks I'm awesome
we see eachother at work and outside of work . we made out a few times. We had some intense conversations about our back ground. We shared our dating rules. Now the waiting. game for the exclusively talk. I gave up dating other guys cause i can't multi date. it just feels wrong. Ahh. Do i bring up the.exclusively talk or does he? When is the time.right? Dating.has too many.rules.and.taboos.

better4me posted 12/26/2013 11:02 AM

No rule about who brings it up first. For me, exclusivity relates to sexually intimacy--I'm not going to get naked with someone who is getting naked with someone else...so I would bring it up when you are thinking that you would like to be taking the relationship to that level. Before the clothes come off.

p.s.

I'm dating the guy who thinks I'm awesome

[This message edited by better4me at 11:03 AM, December 26th (Thursday)]

wildbananas posted 12/26/2013 11:17 AM

I'm not one for multi-dating either but this would definitely be my line in the sand, too:

exclusivity relates to sexually intimacy--I'm not going to get naked with someone who is getting naked with someone else

How long have you been dating?

And it's good to be with someone who thinks you're awesome. Because you are.

eyenight posted 12/26/2013 11:19 AM

I told dude the that no sex until.exclusively. so he.knows he's not getting any until that talk.plus i.add a.90 day.thing.to.it. so say.like.he.and i.become a couple on day.60 of dating.hwanted e's still not.getting any.until.those.90 days pass. Its getting there pretty close. he and i accidentally fell a sleep. Watching a movie.

justabrokendream posted 12/26/2013 11:25 AM

Is this the same guy that poofed a week ago or another one?

I think you need to take some time for yourself, but that is JMO......

eyenight posted 12/26/2013 14:28 PM

Different one. this is the one I've had a crush on for a while who works in the building where my unit is.

fireproof posted 12/27/2013 07:46 AM

I think prior to intimacy.

I also think when you feel it would be important to you. When him dating others would bother you and when you knew you wouldn't date anyone else.

I don't think it is a set time - If I knew what that line was for me I would bring it up and say that you are developing stronger feelings and would like to know where things stood in regards to dating. Let him know you prefer to date only him and ask him what he thinks.

Good luck!

eyenight posted 12/28/2013 03:08 AM

Boy that was the easiest talk ever. so I'm in a couple. yeppy

Bluebird26 posted 12/28/2013 03:55 AM

great news eyenight.

Amazonia posted 12/28/2013 05:00 AM

Yay!
Nice being on the same page as someone, isn't it?

eyenight posted 12/28/2013 13:42 PM

It does. it was actually super cute how it happened. i was like fuck it and said well you like me and i like you what do we do now. He said start calling yfou my girlfriend and you call me your boyfriend. Its official we are together. he deleted his old account and i deleted mine. I'm no t afraid to tell talk to him about any thing. its awesome. no pressure at all