If you were me where would you even start?
Its overwhelming if you look to far ahead, I know. Just try to figure out what you can do today. It may be tiny, but its more than nothing. Those tiny steps add up.
Eta: Sometimes taking control of the small aspects of your life (ex:redecorate your room, cook a favorite meal, etc.) can jump start the process to taking control of the bigger stuff, like finding a new job, etc.
[This message edited by Amazonia at 8:36 PM, December 26th (Thursday)]
I have binders I keep of my to-do lists with all these incremental steps crossed out. Seriously has given me confidence and something to latch onto. After 2 years I have 2 binders FULL of clear evidence of all the things I've done to get my life back on track. It's proof I haven't been sitting on my butt. Start a journal or something similar to track what you are doing. Make it a habit to organize your day with actions you can accomplish that day.
I'm just like you, back at ground ZERO. No money, no home, nuthing. Living in an RV. I am learning to live small and like simplicity.
Since clearly you are thinking about your future, write some stuff down. What little dreams of little things do you have? Big dreams? WRITE THEM DOWN.
At 50, I have no savings and NOTHING for retirement. For me I am looking out 25 years to putting my feet up with enough to get by. It will be a late retirement but dammit I'm going to do it.
This year I finally got a job after two years of unemployment. My goal with this job (it's temporary contract work) is to get some solid skills established and a track record to use for getting my next job. I don't know exactly what my next job will be but I have ideas of where I want to go with my career so I am emphasizing job elements where I can gain towards my future. What can you do to sharpen your skills? Can you volunteer? Can you freelance? Can you take a class? What about self-teaching?
I am working on my own personal psychology. I am prone to depression and "functional paralysis" where I basically can't function... I mope and zone out and sit around.... so I am focusing on not sitting around when I have time available. I am trying to keep moving in my time off. What are your personal traits that are holding you back? Learn about them, read up, and work on a "self-improvement project"
I am also working on not letting my health get out of control (of course this is related to my psychology). I lost 70 pounds a couple years ago and I have gained over half of it back. I'm fighting further weight gain and trying to lose weight. I'm trying to exercise more and drink less alcohol. I'm currently not succeeding very well in this area but it's a goal of mine to not go backwards. What can you do to support your health?
Just some thoughts for you. For me it's not so important WHAT I'm doing, it's THAT I'm doing SOMETHING.
I edit because I always make typos.
Hi, So sorry.
So many losses.
I'm thinking forward motion.
I would say do whatever you can to interact with life in a healthy way.
That might be volunteering. Or taking a yoga class. Or joining a meetup.com group. Or whatever it is that makes you happy, that brings you into contact with others. It might be joining a 12 step group. It doesn't much matter what it is, as long as its' healthy, as long as you start to get involved in life. If you're not working or if you are isolated in your parents house, that's just going to keep you simmering and not moving, ya know?
I read your profile and i'm so sorry this happened to you again, but i don't know if you are in IC. If you are not, that would of course also be something very high on your list.
Of course continue with the job search but if you can't yet or are having challenges then Get Involved in life in some way. Many libraries have lots of programs, depending on county funding, for kids and for adults. Book stores might have author's coming by. I don't know if you are rural suburban or in a city. That will obviously affect your choices but EVERYWHERE there is need. Go out and find out what others need and seek to meet that need.
I think that is the very best advice i can give you. It gets you out of your own sad story and into others. and in giving you receive and the energy starts to flow....
Does that make sense!??
So that's where i would start. Look for others who need help. And go help them through whatever volunteer structure is available to you in your community. Check out your civic organizations, your religious community if you are active or interested.
Hope this might help???? A tiny bit???
I'm about to face a new beginning soon too . Moving into a temporary family house, and will be jobless, far from friends, closer to family, but basically starting again from scratch.
I ask myself the same questions. How to begin again.
[This message edited by TheAgonyOfIt at 10:24 PM, December 26th (Thursday)]
Start to do what you can without the surgery - eat right, walk, etc. you have the time
Contact any and all people to let them know you are looking. Be assertive and don't directly ask for a job just let them know that you are getting back in the work force and any advice would be helpful
Get a job - any job part time till you find a long term job. Some part time jobs in retail have health insurance (that is the key)
Work on your healing- at the store, a customer of yours etc- every opportunity might be a job opportunity. Work on being positive so you are ready for that opportunity
If you like volunteering do it - if not spend time with loved ones. With a job that won't be as possible.
Network with people from the old job and see where they landed. Pick companies you want to work for and look into positions that fit you and those you are slightly over qualified. Getting in is the bottom line - in 2 years it won't matter and the benefits alone are worth it.
Good luck- Keep moving forward is the key!
[This message edited by fireproof at 7:34 AM, December 27th (Friday)]
I made a list. I prioritized and only tackled one at a time and didn't think about anything else.
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.
Please keep looking for ways for you to get out of the house and in the company of other people who are not so demeaning to you!
There are lots of ways to volunteer and most do not require anything of you to prove you are healthy other than that you show up. You can volunteer in a park doing habitat restoration or help in a community garden watering or pulling weeds or painting a fence, help with graffiti removal at a school, walk dogs at the animal shelter.... stuff envelopes for your political party, anything, anything to get out of the house!
(((JerseyCowgirl))) Please think of a way to get out of the house at least a couple times a week!
[This message edited by heartbroken_kk at 11:49 AM, December 28th (Saturday)]
Wow, you have been through so very much!
Sending you huge hugs.