It bothers you because you love your daughter. It bothers you because it's Christmas. And it would piss me off too.
I try -- I mean I really do try -- to let the past be in the past. But there are times (too many) that the past hits us in face. I'm sorry this is one of those times for you.
All I can offer is virtual (((HUGS))).
[This message edited by ItHappened2Me2 at 6:17 PM, December 26th (Thursday)]
It seems to me too that my STBX cares more about OW's son than his own sons. And the bitch probably loves it that way.
I'm done confronting him when I think of more things he did that were fucked up. He hasn't really said sorry for the things I know about, so I'm sure not gonna get anything from him for new stuff I learn or figure out.
You know what's really sad? Some kids have 2 parents that don't give a shit. At least ours have at least one good one.
The assholes are spiting themselves with their selfish ways ... my 2 girls have no desire to see him or talk to him. pos!
I agree that our kids have at least 1 good, concerned and loving parent .... and that is better than some.
A wise friend once told me that if these scumbags treat their flesh and blood bad, then it is easy to crap all over us.
But, I think I thread jacked... I don't think you are overreacting NotFixable. In fact, whoever told you that this happened, and had been keeping it a secret for years, I don't think that person is your friend. I dropped EVERYONE that knew and didn't tell me.
I'm sure it's hard given that you're in a small town, and it can feel very violating and isolating that some people sort of took his side by keeping it quiet, but do NOT feel bad about this. It sucks feeling naive, but now that you're not, show everyone how strong you are and that you don't put up with low life men or friends. I certainly don't want to associate with anyone that can look me in the face and not tell me something so important.. And telling me stuff after the fact? A little too late I'm afraid, buh bye to them..
Hugs to you..