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User Topic: Best zingers you've got in on wayward spouse or other cheater?
♂ 41666
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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you find this too tactless, I will try to delete it. However, as despicable humans we all enjoy inflicting a little pain for vengeance. Could it be therapeutic?

I'm curious what little victories others have felt while learning they've been betrayed.

There are two things that stick out in my head.

1. I called OM and challenged him to come out and face me. He threatened to get a Protective Order against me. I asked him if it came with a skirt. (even my WW laughed when she overheard.)

2. This is mean, but in the heat of battle....

My WW admitted that she once met OM at a motel. (I get queasy just typing this) I said "I assume he paid for the room?"
WW: "Yes."

Me: "Did he leave you something on the nightstand?"

Mean, cruel, counterproductive? Yes. Worse than her behavior?

Posts: 261 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: United States
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW was a horrible speller. She used to always spell bored, board. It drove me crazy! So when I wrote her an e-mail I very nicely corrected her.

Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA

Posts: 1243 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OW was a teacher where my kids went to school. I loudly asked her in the school front office whose husband she was sleeping with this year.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1622 | Registered: Aug 2010
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love these types of threads.

Ow secretary answered my H's work phone one went like this:

Ow: Mr. _____ office. Rebecca speaking.
Me: oh! I'm sorry..did you have to get up off your knees to answer the phone?
ow: (shocked) that wasn't nice
me: i wasn't trying to be.

And yes...he left that job

Me: BS
H had LTA with co-worker
Both mid-50s
Two sons - grown and on their own
DD - April 2010
Please note registration date is not correct. See my profile for details
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 1288 | Registered: Nov 2007
♀ 30024
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Evil  Posted: 7:02 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FWH was a manager for a big box DIY store. It was an employee.

FWH retired from that company. One day we were shopping there. He started telling me that I should get a job there, I would be great at the job. I sweetly asked him "Oh, do I get to fuck my manager, too?"

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

Posts: 13452 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
looking forward
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And do you all still enjoy the satisfaction of your comments?

Mean, cruel, counterproductive

If your relationship is over, then knock your socks off with this verbalization of your hurt, anger, disgust, etc.
But, if you are attempting R then the comments are just plain mean, cruel, and counterproductive!

BTDT....way too many times in the last 4 years, 8 months, and 13 days!

Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

Posts: 3272 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: Where a river runs through it
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have on multiple occasions pointed out OW can't vote yet.

(Legal age of consent, not quite legal age to vote but "she is *almost* 18" )

Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13

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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On the divorce being final: Damn expensive piece of ass, wasn't it.

On him whining to me that the OW's felon brother had stolen his identity and raided his frequent flyer and hotel rewards accounts: As you may recall, I wasn't wild about your relationship with her.

He got neither, seriously,


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've got nothing to add but enjoy reading these. I've "thought" of things but being we're in recovery and I talk too much anyway, I keep them to myself.., but do snicker from time to time.

[This message edited by rachelc at 8:12 PM, December 26th (Thursday)]

Posts: 7613 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, December 26th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me: oh! I'm sorry..did you have to get up off your knees to answer the phone?
LOL @LivingALie!

~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"

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Default  Posted: 12:16 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My ex was meeting a woman for lunch, and I asked, "Who is she? Is she one of your women?" He wasn't thinking because he responded all smart assed with, "She's married!" I said, "That didn't bother you before." I knew I hit home because he turned bright red. Broke through the denial of just what kind of a man he really was for a moment.

Another time: he wrote out the speech he wanted to give to our kids to tell them about our divorce. He wanted to tell them I wasn't social enough or active enough, and I needed someone devoted to me. I wrote him back saying, first of all, I could be a marathon running debutant and you would still want the divorce so put that lie behind you, and secondly: if you get to list 2 of my perceived faults to the kids, I get to list 2 of yours, and I choose that you weren't loyal or honest enough. And then finally, if I needed someone devoted to me I wouldn't have tried reconciliation for so long. I rewrote the speech and he went with my version (no listing of faults, and no stupid promises that things wouldn't change that much...he actually wanted to tell them that we would still celebrate all of our holidays and stuff together...right ).

D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 806 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 12:17 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Then WH to me: OW doesn't want to be a home-wrecker.

Me: Tell OW a good way to accomplish that is by NOT fucking married dudes.

Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now: happy in life, happily in love with the RIGHT man -----> Everything is as it should be

Posts: 940 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: The Hostile City
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha love these... I don't think these are mean even if your in R.
So when I found out fWH fucked the OW without protection I asked if he was worried about STDs. He said well she's not that kind of girl...she looked clean.. I said was that before or after she told she was tired of being the other woman and getting STDs. What a fucking idiot. p

Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

Posts: 515 | Registered: Aug 2013
♂ 40607
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Default  Posted: 1:26 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did a background check on the OM and found out he was recently convicted of a felony (pleaded guilty, served jail time (after work), and currently on probation. Turns out this loser "forgot" to notify his employer of his recent conviction.

Somehow, just somehow, this little tidbit of info got relayed to the president (and head of human resources) of the place where this ass works. He is currently suspended (and will mostly likely not be returning according to the president of the company).

Good luck finding another job in this economy, you ass-wipe. Your felony conviction is out there for all future employers to see. Payback is a bitch, isn't it?

Now to my WW (yes, the one who denies giving me pubic crabs)....

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Default  Posted: 6:34 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH: "But OW is so NICE"

me: "Nice girls don't f*ck married men & try to destroy families."

(This was right after Dday. WH doesn't see her as being nice anymore. Good example of how blind the WS is when deep in the FOG.)

[This message edited by mchercheur at 6:35 AM, December 27th (Friday)]

Me: BW
Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011
Married 28 years/Together 29 years/4 kids together
OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids
Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be

Posts: 2503 | Registered: Dec 2012
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Default  Posted: 6:45 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When we were negotiating visitation issues for D, I threw a hard core first proposal at him that said he couldn't bring anyone around my kids, he could never have anyone sleep over when they are with him, and he could never live with anyone outside of marriage. We knew he would shit and never agree, but that was the jumping off platform.

In the negotiation room, he told me and my lawyer that he wouldn't agree to that clause. He was stupid enough to look me in the face to say that he should be allowed to have other people around the kids because, "there can be serious relationships outside of marriage."

I said, "I know. You're involved in one. The problem is you're already married."


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On DDay#2 WH#2 was in full denial mode. He had no idea what I knew or how I knew he was still involved with OW. He just kept saying he had no idea what I was talking about, he was not seeing her and had not seen her in almost a year. I refuse to tell him that she had left a note in my jewlery box outing their A again. Finally I got so mad at his lying to my face that I went into my office and drew him a cartoon on a large poster board of the two of them naked, having a discussion about how stupid I was and that I would never find out about what they were doing. I then showed it to him and told him at the next family holiday I would bring out the picture cartoon and show his whole large family what a cheating lying asshole he was during our prayer and what we are all thankful for. That's when he decided to spill his guts about their continued involvement. A picture is worth a thousand words sometimes.

BS-55 XWH#2-No longer my monkey
M-11yrs LTA-5yrs Divorced 8/15
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"

Posts: 9221 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh so many come to mind.

xWH said that OW was just being a friend. I replied, "My friends keep their pants on."

xWH attempting to convince me once again that the affair was over. I replied, "It looks like a duck, it walks like a duck, it quacks like a duck, everyone can see it is a duck and the only one you are trying to hide it from is me. You're telling me it's a cat, I know it's a big fucking duck"

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1858 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
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Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One night I can't even remember which dday but I know it was summer and the 1st of the month; ow picked up my wh for inventory (they have inventor every month) at OUR HOUSE, when she pulled up he was very worried about what I would do and tried to stop me from going outside, it was 2 am my kids were asleep and my parents lived next door (and I was in my pj's), I just went out their introduced myself said hi, and as he got in the car I told her to stop fucking MY HUSBAND! He later told me how I embarrassed him!

If that happened today I would have done more then embarrassed him!!! And I couldn't have embarrassed him that much the A went on for at least another month or two.

[This message edited by scangel3 at 7:36 AM, December 27th (Friday)]

BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 10, DS 7, DS 6.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 718 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, these are fun. Tactless perhaps, but tact kind of goes out the window in these situations.
Best one I remember off hand:
"Next time you let another guy c*m in your mouth don't ask me for a kiss when you get home. I think that's happened far too many times already."

As far as the unspoken ones, there's far too many to remember, but my favorite one that I do recall:

WW: "I guess I can start going to Dr. X for my checkups."
My unspoken reply that I almost had to bite through my tongue to keep from saying: "Well at least I know the only thing of his that will end up in your mouth are his fingers." (AP #2 is a DDS)

Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months
Hoped I'd never have to add this: Dday #2 11/22/2015 Not sure how far it went yet but have a pretty good idea.

2 Cor. 12:9-10

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