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Divorce/Separation :
It's all I have...pennies and cans

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 Gajit (original poster member #40665) posted at 12:55 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

He is court ordered to keep paying our bills, he only sends ver minimal for our existence.

Last week he sent $500.

My bills this week are, $200-phone/internet, $650-mortgage, $95-cable, $200-utilities. Not to mention gas, car insurance, etc.

So what does he do? He sends me $500 fucking dollars!

I fucking HATE him!!!

Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

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alienstookmyexH ( member #38452) posted at 1:07 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

I have been fighting for my settlement money and my alimony awarded 2 years ago. The SOB is making over $100,000 a years on federally funded jobs but I can't get the judges to enforce the judgement! Taken it to court 4 times. Family court is ridiculous. I am trying to live on $800 a month and not making it. I hope you have children, at least they will go after child support a little bit harder.

I hope we both see a brighter year!

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alienstookmyexH ( member #38452) posted at 1:20 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

Get on the phone and ask for help. Salvation Army. social services, whatever you cam find. Go to disabilty site online, file it out, the attorney just makes money off you. Go to the court house, and file for enforcement of payment. I have gone 4 times (no money for lawyer so I do it myself) and one of these days I will succeed. I will not stop. GET ANGRY!

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alienstookmyexH ( member #38452) posted at 1:22 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

I FUCKING HATE BOTH YOUR EX AND MINE!!!!!!!

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 1:25 AM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

First thing tomorrow get the paperwork started to have his wages garnished.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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alienstookmyexH ( member #38452) posted at 3:27 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

HI, how are you this morning? Take baby steps if you have to but do at least one thing to start the ball rolling today. My heart hurts for you as our situations are similar and I know that fear and desperation. Thank care.

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newlysingle ( member #38735) posted at 3:28 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

Yes, can they garnish his wages? Mine is garnished, but it's tied in with child support. I don't know if that makes a difference.

BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13

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alienstookmyexH ( member #38452) posted at 4:23 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

Yes they can garnish wages BUT the judge has to order it done. Each time I have filed against my ex, it has taken 5-6 months to work through family law court (4 tines). Right now I have been waiting for judge's decision ( last court date Nov. 19, filed in August), it is a disgusting degrading experience.

I have been disabled since 12 years old, severe scoliosis with 3/4 back fusion, IBS, fibromyhligia, severe depression and anxiety, I have not worked in over 20 years and the damn judge says to me how do we know you can't work part time.

I am on disability which is NOT easy to qualify for, and the ex owes me $50.000 but the judge believes I should work.....My therapist was wild when he heard that, the judge has no right to determine if I should work or not.

It is hard to have to fight for yourself but no one will do it for you when you are broke.

[This message edited by alienstookmyexH at 10:30 AM, December 27th (Friday)]

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 7:25 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

Some judges in family court are completely out of touch with reality. The one who handled my divorce is one of them. Aliens, sounds like your judge is also from another planet.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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alienstookmyexH ( member #38452) posted at 7:42 PM on Friday, December 27th, 2013

Nature Girl, I live in the worst state of all for idiot judges CA, Notorious family court problems here. I am determined to get what I was awarded though so they better get used to me and when I get mine, I am determined to help others who are being abused by the system.

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