I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.
I've been MIA for a while.
husband and I are still having issues- not cheating issues. He has been good in that department so far as I can tell.
Apparently, that doesn't stop some whore ex of his from creeping up and trying to insert herself back into his life. So far (and I have been watching very closely), he has not spoken to her, has shown zero interest, and has not been around her.
First, she successfully found a crowd of friends of his, and started going to the bar they go to regularly. Now his friends are all hanging out with her- going to her birthday party. Then, she tried to make contact with me (via facebook- husband doesn't have one) and play all innocent, "oh heyyyyy, are you the wife? We used to date- I can't believe he finally settled down! You should tell him to come to the bar this weekend- I would love to buy him a drink and catch up!" I said something to him- we're not going (his choice), and he didn't bat an eyelash. Could not have cared less, this far. I wonder how long it will take until this becomes a problem.
Regardless, I see what she is doing. I check his phone. I check his Internet usage, and his e-mail- I trust him, just not the situation. Been there, done that before. He knows, we haven't talked about it directly but he knows how I feel and my concerns.
I really wanted to respond and tell her I knew exactly what she was doing...didn't do it. I don't want to look bad in from of his friends, or start some drama fight. But god, if I could:
There is a reason (beyondbreaking's husband name here) refers to you as an "ex"- BECAUSE HE BROKE UP WITH YOU. There is a reason why he didn't try to keep in touch, remain friends, or get in contact with you- HE ISNT INTERESTED IN YOU.
I know what you're trying to do. Deny away- I can see right through your innocent little act. If your game works- if you are able to steal him away from me- congratulations. Stealing a cheater is walking away with no prize. If it doesn't work- again you lose. How does it feel, having a plan in which no matter what happens, you lose?
Do yourself a favor- back off, walk away, and forget him. He already forgot about you years ago.
"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."