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scangel3 posted 12/27/2013 02:55 AM

Ok so A season is right around the corner, 4 years ago, I periodically check (when I'm triggering bad) on OW's fb, I'm blocked and have been for 3 years, but I have another account that I'm not blocked from (a secret account at the time to get info from wh or try to, he knows about the account now although I don't ever use it) but tonight I was searching from my account and I'm no longer blocked? Why would she all of a sudden Un-block me? My account is completely private so she can't see anything except my profile pic. But it's really bugging the hell out of me, especially this close to when the A started.

Is she fishing? Should I be worried about other contact? I just don't get it!

BeautifulEmpty posted 12/27/2013 03:06 AM

I have no idea but our last OW did the same thing.
She had her nasty little last word and then blocked me. I had to go back to torture myself with her stupidity and look up her last message after over a year of leaving it alone and...she'd unblocked me.
As far as I know, she hasn't made contact to my H and definitely not to myself so I don't know what the point is.

Ostrich80 posted 12/27/2013 03:28 AM

Well maybe she wants to look at your stuff and if she blocks you, she's also blocked from you. Or maybe she has something she wants you to see.

Ostrich80 posted 12/27/2013 03:30 AM

Oops just saw yours is private. Was there something she had on hers, a pic or a show off post.

scangel3 posted 12/27/2013 04:33 AM

No hers is private too, only able to see her profile pics

Kalliopeia posted 12/27/2013 07:34 AM

OW did that in my case, too. She had me blocked. Then she unblocked me. Then she wrote to me and told me she really likes cats. I just ignored her. After a few months she wrote and demanded to know why I keep writing to her.

She had just uploaded about 20 pics of other child. I was a sucker and looked. Blew my brain in a nano second. I ignored her then, too, because any response would have validated her meaness.

scangel3 posted 12/27/2013 07:55 AM

But why after 3 years? That's the confusing part, I mean I get after a few months, but years? I just don't understand why now?

cancuncrushed posted 12/27/2013 09:06 AM

she is not over it.... Imagine that. This would make me more then crazy. I have too many questions still. stepping back into my world would never be ok.

karmahappens posted 12/27/2013 09:11 AM

you should have her blocked.

And if you hadn't been looking you never would have known...

Stop looking and block her, let her go away....

million tears posted 12/27/2013 09:30 AM

It sounds like she's still obsessing.

Lovedyoumore posted 12/27/2013 09:40 AM

The IC told my H that AP, particularly predatory ones who were cut off with a sudden NC, will circle back around periodically when they need a new victim to persue. They like to go back to the familiar occasionally to see if they can get in a bite or two before moving on. He said NC is vital to keeping them moving. The least little thing they get will encourage them to stay longer. The IC said it may last a few cycles or last a lifetime. The AP keeps the predatory pattern for their whole lives unless they seek intensive therapy.

StillLivin posted 12/27/2013 10:17 AM

A while ago, I deactivated my account for a few months. When I reactivated it, all blocked people had to be reblocked.
Not saying this happened to her, as I'm sure it was just a glitch with my FB account. However, maybe she isn't even thinking about you, and it is a glitch.
Or, she is thinking about you, unblocked you temporarily so she could fish for info.
Regardless, in order to heal, NC NC NC.
Block her and do not attempt to look at her. Nothing good can come from that kind of contact.

cl131716 posted 12/27/2013 14:24 PM

That would drive me nuts as well. OW never blocked me but she has her profile set to private.

Then she wrote to me and told me she really likes cats.

This made me laugh. She sounds like a complete nut!

womaninflux posted 12/27/2013 14:29 PM

Maybe it's a sign you should move on from her.

Because now it's YOU who has the power to look or not look.

Have you asked yourself why you are looking in the first place?

scangel3 posted 12/27/2013 14:35 PM

I do ask myself why I look, it's usually after a stream of triggery days and my morbid curiosity to know if she's still with her bs or happy. Although since her profile is private I can't tell any of that. So I don't know whyi keep looking, although I don't look that often, it just happens that this month has been a very triggery one for me and I looked at the beginning and yesterday, I usually don't look that often.

I guess my next question is, has she unblocked wh or made any contact? He claims he hasn't heard from he or seen her in a long time, and my guts not screaming that he's lying so I'll have to see

[This message edited by scangel3 at 2:37 PM, December 27th (Friday)]

scangel3 posted 12/27/2013 16:34 PM

Wh is still blocked from her account,so it wasn't just a flaw in fb where it all got reset. Not sure this makes me feel any better!

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