Topic: Today is our 35th wedding anniversary
Member # 27871
| Posted: 7:08 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
And we are celebrating! He gave me 5 golden rings. I don't always wear my ring. ( my hangup) so he said "maybe you'll wear these ". 5 bangles! Mamma likes. But that is besides the point.
I realized I'm on my way to a normal me. I love my husband and he loves me. I'm taking my husband's hand and looking forward. Not back. I am receiving and giving love. I feel hope.
[This message edited by openedupmyeyes at 7:09 AM, December 27th (Friday)]
Him:55 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.
Posts: 770 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
Member # 38141
| Posted: 7:11 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Posts: 689 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 39803
| Posted: 8:39 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
I am receiving and giving love. I feel hope.
Tears on that one! So happy for you guys.
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
Posts: 3515 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Member # 41166
| Posted: 8:54 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
Beautiful and much needed post for those of us still struggling.
Thank you for sharing! And congrats!
Me: BW 43 (39 at DDay 1)
FWH 43 (39 at DDay 1) (RibsInHerChest)
Together 23 yrs, M 20, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Massive TT due to poly: 1/4/2015 full blown EA/3 week PA
Didn't use condom, I got chlamydia.
Posts: 882 | Registered: Oct 2013
Member # 30024
| Posted: 9:42 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
Awesome! Happy for you both. Congratulations!
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 13298 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Member # 31240
| Posted: 9:51 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
fBH (me) - 66 on d-day, Married 43, together 45 on d-day, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
Most of us know only our own experience. That's not enough data to support a general rule that D, or R, is right in every sitch.
Posts: 16556 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
Member # 24938
| Posted: 9:58 AM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
So nice to read this!
And congrats on your wedding anniversary!
I read in your profile about the threads that are knitted together to form your marriage.
That was how a minister described it to me also.
It was our 30th anniversary and I didn't know how to look at it....should I say that this was our first anniversary because we were reconciling after d-day and embarking on a 'new' marriage, or should I subtract the 5 yrs of the LTA and say that we were only married for 25 yrs?
And the minister replied that I should think of our marriage as a quilt with all the experiences good and bad woven through it.
The 5 toxic years were part of our history but the marriage as a whole was so much more.
I now see us and our marriage as survivors.
We held on because underneath it all there really was a strong bond of love.
So glad that you are feeling hopeful.
May 2014 be your year for happiness and peace!
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Posts: 3174 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: NJ
Member # 35812
| Posted: 12:58 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
Congratulations! I'm so very pleased for you!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 9912 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 27968
| Posted: 2:05 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
So happy for you both!
BS Me 63
WS Him 64
I can dwell in the negative or seek the positive...one road is lonely...the other teeming with life.
Posts: 1861 | Registered: Mar 2010
Member # 30369
| Posted: 2:08 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
Posts: 30659 | Registered: Dec 2010
Member # 39836
| Posted: 2:09 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
A lovely post, congrats!
Entering R slowly and cautiously...
Posts: 893 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 40637
| Posted: 2:12 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
So happy for you. Thanks for the encouragement.
DDs, 1977 (prostitutes), 7/8/13 (LTA MOW), 11/14 (CL), 9/1/15 (PA).
Porn, 2DUIs, blame-shifting. I told both families & adult kids. I was suicidal and cutting.
I moved out for 2 years, he asked me to come home 10/16. R w exit plan.
Posts: 246 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
|Getting to Happy|
Member # 35200
| Posted: 5:13 PM, December 27th (Friday), 2013|
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Posts: 1254 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
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